Friday, October 31, 2008
I'm surprised they managed to dig out a pic of me from 8 years ago... from their archives!
But the piece was about blogging and having been a teacher and my opinions on how the two mash.
I'm just pleased that the writer didn't mangle or manipulate my opnions, hardly any deviation from what i said. That's great.
CLICK HERE for the online version. (Thanks to my anonymous reader who sent in the link)
The online version of article is no longer available. I should have saved a screenshot, but I didn't. So, here's a scanned copy sent in by reader Nath (thank you!).
I kept my blog and job separate
Ex-teacher says students knew of blog but not colleagues
WHEN she started her blog two years ago, former teacher Holly Jean Aroozoo knew Big Brother was watching.
By Liew Hanqing
01 November 2008
WHEN she started her blog two years ago, former teacher Holly Jean Aroozoo knew Big Brother was watching.
In her maiden blog entry in 2006, she mused: 'Why am I blogging? Especially when I am a civil servant (I teach!) under watchful eyes, have to watch what I wear, what I say, how I conduct myself?
'Yes, it's no fun being constrained like that. But I figure, if I stay off politics (which is a damn bore to me anyway) and don't bring much of my work into my blogging (which will be a bore to you anyway)... I'll be ok.'
On her blog, the 28-year-old writes about everything from daily life to sex and dating.
The first thing a visitor to the site sees is a large picture of her posing topless with her back to the camera, revealing a tattoo on her right shoulder blade.
She was determined to separate her work and personal life. But, as a teacher, is that even possible?
'I thought there would not be any problems since the two (my blog and my job) would never cross, they were two separate things,' she told The New Paper.
'But as time went by, I realised that because of my job and position as a 'role model', I had to impose restrictions on my opinions and what I chose to share about my life.'
Miss Aroozoo, who taught at a secondary school for three years, said most of her colleagues didn't know she had a blog.
But many of her students did.
She said: 'Many of my students were avid readers of my blog, even though what I published was targeted at an older audience.
'They enjoyed having a sneak peek into my life, but never really understood the nuances or tongue-in-cheek humour of my writing.'
Despite her sometimes risque choice of blog topics, she said she has never been formally warned about her blogging habits.
'Apart from having to censor myself and pull down a couple of 'inappropriate' posts, I have never been formally warned,' she said.
'The issue (of blogging) does get raised during staff meetings and general caution is given to all staff to watch what they post online as it is a public domain.'
The closest shave she had with the school authorities was earlier this year, after she wrote a post describing her experience as a contestant in FHM's Girl Next Door competition.
She recalled: 'I published an entry about how out of place I felt in the contest because I misunderstood 'girl-next-door' as someone sweet and wholesome, but when I looked at most of the other girls, I felt like they were really looking for a slut-next-door.
'It was a light-hearted humorous post on how some things in life are not how it seems, but still, I had to delete it because the school was afraid of parents' reactions.'
While she was not forced to delete the entry, she decided to do it of her own accord.
She resigned as a teacher in June this year.
She explained: 'Even though I love interacting with teenagers, I just found (the job) stifling and crippling my personal life.
'I am passionate about what I write and want to focus on that.
'My blog was just one example where I felt restricted, and it was not the sole cause of my resignation.'
She added that she feels regulation, such as laws that prohibit the distribution of online pornography, are sufficient to keep the online behaviour of teacher-bloggers in check.
'There is such a thing called the law and it's there for a reason.
'For instance, uploading pornographic pictures is a no-no, but discussing the issue of pornography in society (on a blog) is perfectly fine,' said Miss Aroozoo, who was a New Paper New Face finalist in 2001.
On whether she feels Singaporeans are too prudish when it comes to teachers 'having a life' outside work, she said she felt there was a need for students to develop the ability to form their own opinions.
'Kids are being exposed to taboo issues every day on TV, Internet sites and through their friends. This is the way the world is. We cannot keep the blinkers on them forever.
'They need to learn to develop strength of character and form their own opinions.
'What are we propagating when we restrict and force everyone to conform into one mould?
'Future leaders? No way. Cupcakes, maybe.'
Copyright © 2005 Singapore Press Holdings Ltd. Co. Regn. No. 198402868E. All rights reserved.
10. Try to eat my face
This is not the time to do your impression of a hippo. Leaving saliva on the cheeks, jawline, nose, chin is not sexy or erotic. It's just not.
Especially for a first kiss, someone who puts too much pressure makes kissing non-pleasurable. Ok.. I know you're strong, you could probably crack a wallnut with those lips, but you don't have to prove anything here.
Sometimes a short playful look is great... but someone who opens his eyes throughout and stares is downright freaky.
7. Knock knock?
6. Jumping in too fast
Whoah... down boy! I actually relish delayed gratification. Even if you're confident, don't make a move too fast. The key to creating that mind blowing first kiss is to let sexual tension build up. Get into their personal space, touch playfully, look into their eyes, and then look away. Be close enough to kiss, but don't. Leave them craving it for a while. :)
5. Missing the boat
While it is vital to wait and build sexual tension... it is just as vital not to miss the boat altogether. You need to use your own instinct, and read your partner's body language. Don't chicken out at the last minute... and be nothing but a tease.
The use of the tongue is supposed to be sensual. Do not jab it in and out of someone's mouth like it's a boxing match.
3. Keep Still
2. Chapped Lips
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
But unfortunately, life is not so clear cut. We may be able to read people's faces, but we can never read their hearts.
Here's my top 3 people to be wary of when seeking relationship advice.
I'm not saying they're all like that... but just scratch a little deeper, don't take advice blindly, don't be swayed without either contemplating long and hard or seeking another less biased opinion.
3. Your Single (but lonely) male friends
When you're in a relationship, they don't get to monopolise 100% of your time anymore. They've lost their wing man. And most of all... it sucks watching you have someone constant and real there for you while they don't. So they will play up their casual fucks. Make you envy him.Talk about how he got some sweet ass the night before... but poor you.. stuck with your old ball and chain...
So, the more problems he can convince you your relationship is having, the more you will be drawn towards his lifestyle. And then you wake up one day, single and swinging again. (hoorah!)
2. General Female Acquaintances
These lot are dangerous.. simply because they're not your "friends". They will have no problems with telling you what they think you want to hear. Women being women... will want themselves coming out looking better than other women. And they have nothing to lose by pretending to do just that.
Last year, my then boyfriend got me the worst birthday present in the history of my life. It was a pink scrap book. And empty pink scrap book. All the girls in his office gushed at what a thoughtful boyfriend he was. Such a "thoughtful" present ( I repeat, the scrapbook was empty no pictures, no words, nothing).
I was really sore with him because for his last birthday, I took him on a holiday to Bangkok. So a scrapbook really paled in comparison. And I honestly expected a lot more for a 2 year relationship. But those women ended up making me seem like a calculative, selfish girlfriend... because they would have just adored their BFs if they were given such a thoughtful gift. (I think they were all lying, but my Bf at the time believed them).
(look at it! wow!)
When I went to work the next day and whined to my female colleagues that I got a scrapbook for my 27th birthday. (It would have been forgivable if I were 7). One of them made me feel better by saying her fiance once gave her a Parker Pen for Valentine's day. (No prizes if you can guess exactly which people thought it was a fabulous and practical gift for her)
1. The Ex-Girlfriend
She's someone who knows you well. Yet this makes her the most dangerous of all advice givers when it comes to your love life. Do you know why I say this?
Monday, October 27, 2008
I may have already mentioned that I have a friend from San Francisco who's in the midst of moving over to Singapore. And I never knew that moving could be such a stressful experience!
Moving with family? People with special needs? A pet dog? No problem! MoveMe is a lifesaving website for new home buyers, sellers, or even people who rent.
Friday, October 24, 2008
"The Big Difference Between Sex For Money and Sex For Free, is that sex for money usually costs less!" (Irish playwright Brendan Behan)
And you know what? I think it's quite true indeed!
One of my guy friends was telling me about why he stopped seeing this girl he was dating. Apparently, after a couple weeks of dating, he took her on a weekend holiday in Thailand. And she still did not sleep with him. He was expecting that if she accepted the holiday, then sex was on the cards for him.
Later on, when I dated the My Mighty Disappearing Man, we were having a conversation when the topic of sex came up. And I slipped him the question- Have you ever paid for sex?. (This is important because I could never date someone who has ever resorted to prostitution).
And then he surprised me with his answer...- ALL MEN PAY FOR SEX, one way or another. Before you get a girl in bed, you'll have to take her out to dinner etc, and all that costs money.
When I look at my own dating habits... I realise that on the first date, if I like the person and I know that it's going to go further (meaning doesn't end at just one date), I let him foot the bill.
But you know how sometimes you're out on a first date, and you kinda know that this is not the person for you...?? Well, when I get THAT feeling, I always scramble to pay for the meal when the bill comes. I guess subconsciously, I don't want to be indebted, or feel obligated since I know he's not going to get anything from me ........ (I meant a second date!). [Girls.. I cannot stress this enough. Sleeping (or making out) with a man on the first date is just POOR FORM! No matter how attracted you are to him. NO! DON'T !]So... do you agree? All men pay for sex indirectly? All those men who meet women at the club, on the train, at church (!), online or wherever ... they still end up paying for it.
It's no wonder so many pay go to prostitutes! It's cheaper. And you're guaranted sex after paying for it. Dating on the other hand... is a gamble.
Which brings me now to another question. If paying for the date is paying for sex... Then don't women pay for sex too?
We spend money on nice clothes, pay for brazilian waxes, get sexy underwear, pay for the pill.... all that... I'm pretty sure women out there are not doing these things to make themselves unfuckable.
I am hoping though that the man i end up with isn't splurging on dates because he just wants to get laid... rather he's dating me because he enjoys time spent with me, and wants to develop a meaningful relationship.
Meanwhile though... I'll just keep splurging to keep myself looking fuckably good. ( JOKE !)
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Who doesn't enjoy Spoofy Logos? Here are a few of my favourites:
The first hooker said,"I bet you five pounds that I could put three fingers up my p*ssy."
Then the second hooker said, "I bet I could put my whole fist up my p*ssy I've been f****d that much!"
The third hooker said nothing and just slid down the stool !
I think my next post will be about sex... and the fact that everyone pays for it! (Be patient. You'll see what i mean)
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Its clear-cut layout ensures that whatever you need to look for is just a click away. On the main page, you will find 4 tabs leading to Jobs, Cars, Property and Shops.
Today however, given our current economic climate, and the fears of retrenchment and the state of singapore recruitment, I'm going to highlight the Jobs section.
There are so many Jobs in Singapore available to locals and foreigners. This is the site for you if you are currently unemployed, employed but looking for a change or a fresh graduate. The website even has a section for discussion on Salaries, Workplace Politics, etc.
It caters to people looking for part time positions as well. So students on your school holiday break... do check out the various retail, admin, service positions available.
So what are you waiting for?
Monday, October 20, 2008
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Bars and pubs are not good places to pick up men or women. It's dark and alcohol impairs judgement (so it's only to your advantage if you're the ugly one), there's a lot of competition (people out on the pull). And you'll probably get someone who's fishing at the club... Who knows who they went home with last week, or the week before that, and before that... you get the idea.
1. Pimp Your Pup at the Park!It's pretty important for me to have a partner who likes animals, likes dogs. So go... walk your dog at east coast, or any park (which would have your target group of men/women). Don't have a dog? Borrow mine! Have a nice day out, it's good exercise.
It's more difficult to get someone who's out running or jogging (worse still- cycling or rollerblading). They'll be preoccupied with the task at hand and will pass you by. I guess you could try running alongside, or bumping into them??? But it's much easier to get someone who has stopped for a rest on a bench or a drink at a cafe by the beach/park. Alternatively, wait near the carpark, so he'll be done (or just starting) with the run/rollerblading/whatever and isn't preoccupied at that very moment.
2.Church Check Out!As a social setting, church is not my cup of tea really. Plus I look like crap at every early sunday morning mass. But some people have found their matches in church. I guess it is easier to work things out with someone with the same rather than opposing religious sentiments???
If you spot someone you like, be friendly! Simle! And then maybe ask him/her to tutor you?? help you out...
You can stake out the best shelves. Though I personally find that the men's magazines bit of Borders is a great place... much higher Man traffic than most other shelves. I look out for the man who picks up the "intelligent" magazines, or photography, car, sports and fitness magazines. I give the ones who paw through magazines like MAXIM a skip. (yuck!)Good idea to skip this one too. :)
So there you have it... my top 5 decent places to meet men (or women).
Have Fun!! Good Luck!!!
Friday, October 17, 2008
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
But for the benefit of my newer readers, Skye is my ex-boyfriend. Nope... not one of the many men I've dated in this past year. But a serious long term relationship. It ended rather suddenly, no cheating or big fight, but just a major change in life's circumstances which caused us to split. I call it the worst break up of my life! I was utterly lost without him, he was someone I was going to marry, someone I lived with and loved. And the night we split, I cried so incredibly hard into my pillow (with him sleeping right beside me) that I burst blood vessels around my eye area.
I cannot elaborate further, any explanation here on my part would make it seem as if I were pushing the blame on to him. So let's just leave it at that.
Yesterday, I was in town after a shoot, and I was supposed to meet a friend for drinks, but he had a fever. Long story short, I rang Skye to see if he were free for a cake and coffee. We hadn't met in the flesh since we split up.
Which is just me joking around. (I am not some material girl expecting boys to buy her stuff ok!) The freaking thing was probably like 10 thousand bucks, anyway!
And then he said - "Yeah, if this were a year ago.. I would."
And I replied- "What are you talking about?! A year ago, we had already split up!"
[And actually thinking... yeah right... as if you would have bought that for me a year ago... REMEMBER THE SCRAP BOOK?????]
And it was then that it struck us... October 14 was the exact date of our break up, exactly 1 year ago.
It was really nice to see him again. It's been one long and mostly lonely year for me. But for those who think that this is going to lead to some sort of rekindling of old flames. Sorry. It's not. When I made my mind up many many many months ago to put the pain behind and move on... I did just that.
Don't get me wrong. There's no hatred or resentment here. Just acceptance and realisation that that relationship is not what I want anymore.
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
The right widgets can spruce up any blog.
Holly Jean's Top 10 Blog Widgets!
(In random order)
This is great for travel blogs. You can put a clock in your post to show the local time of the country you're writing about. Countdown clocks can mark or remind your readers of significant approaching dates.
Saturday, October 11, 2008
It claims to be a Hell of a good time. But ok... I'll be honest with you... it's the same good time as a normal night safari there... except that in the spirit of Halloween... staff are in costume, and ghouls and goblins pop out at you from the bushes for a cheap scare. The tram ride was comfortable, spacious and it gave us a great view of animals. The pic above is of the omy.sg cameraman getting attacked by a cleaver weilding madman. haha. funny.
On scare factor- (bear in mind, guys, that I'm hardly even scared by the best of horror films...)... I'd give the Night Safari Halloween Tour a 2 out of 10.
Hey, Holly Jean, where are all the damn animals? You ask?