Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Liking Hot IG Pics, Why Do You Do It?

Out of curiosity I checked out my Instagram activity updates from those whom I follow. Just to see what people were liking etc.

Then I noticed a few male friends of mine (all married or attached)... the photos they liked raised an eyebrow. Sexy pics, or beautiful IG girls, or girls in various states of undress.

Pic: Example only ah....

My first reaction was to feel sorry for their wives/gfs (some of whom are my friends and are on IG too).

I don’t see the same the other way around. The females in the relationship are liking friends pictures, food pictures, travel destinations etc. Not making public what they are ogling at.

It’s definitely NOT because there are no handsome or sexy men pics on IG. There are lots! But how come I don’t see my girl friends checking those out and liking those?

I can’t answer for them. But I can tell you why I don’t click like on those pics.

Respect. Consideration. Also, why do I need to click like anyway?

I’m not blind, I definitely can see the pics of Henry Golding looking oh so dapper in a sharp suit, then there’s Paul Foster with his rugged good looks and tats which stretch across a very broad and firm chest. And these are just Sg guys, there are far more around the globe.

Do I avert my eyes or block them on IG? No, it’s not like I’m Mormon lol. I might look at the pic if it comes up on my feed. I might even give a silent nod of approval. But the way I see it... if I make the effort to actually click LIKE on their pic (or worse still, leave a flattering or flirtatious comment)... it’s like giving a very public gesture of approval.

Whenever I see pics of hot guys, yes I look at them. But before I make any effort to like them, it does cross my mind- how would my partner feel if he sees me liking all this? And then I feel like it’s disrespectful, so I don’t. Doesn’t mean I cannot see them and it doesn’t even mean I cannot appreciate The Eye candy... but when I think what good will my LIKE do? Absolutely fuck all. Instead it might hurt or disappoint my partner. So why would I do it.

How is liking a sexy girl’s bikini Instagram pic any different from wolf whistling the same girl at the pool? How is liking a guys hot bod gym pic any different from rubber necking and giving him the obvious visual up down with your eyes?

You don’t do that in public.. especially if your partner is there, why? Why is it ok to do so on Instagram?

A lot of people will say oh it should be ok .. because TRUST. But the issue here isn’t trust. You think people so stupid, they don’t know that liking an Instagram pic isn’t akin to cheating? And that liking all ten thousand IG pics of a hot celebrity isn’t going to get you in their bed? Of course I know that. The issue isn’t trust. It’s not like oh you like her pic so you’re going to cheat on me with her.

But the issue is- if you see a pic and you think it’s hot or beautiful etc fine... you can always look and get on with your busy day... but what compels you to feel the need to put your public stamp of approval on it? And is that not a form of disrespect to your actual in real life partner? Like why the hell do you feel the need to do stuff like that.. what is lacking in your relationship or in your own esteem?

What do you think?

P/s. In case some of u go CSI and find that eh wtf Holly u been liking so many hot guy pics the last couple of days! I come clean now ah... I did it as part of research and to see the effects/ how I felt etc. It’s very unlikely that you’ll see me continuously doing that from now on because it’s honestly no longer worth my time or effort. Maybe when single and no kids yeah I wld ... because like hopeful lol lol lol

Wednesday, September 05, 2018

Analingus, Paid Sex and Other Such Stuff (Lol)

My latest articles on MyFatPocket... which may be of interest to you  :)

Yup, Even I Pay for Sex (click to read).

Guide to Anilingus (click to read).

And if you have a husband or Boyfriend who is gila football.... send him this - Your Boyfriend's Guide to enjoying the EPL . I'm fortunate that my husband doesn't like watching football but I've dated many who were obsessed with
it. I've learnt that you cannot beat them and their obsession, so your best bet is to make the season less frustrating for both you and your BF/hubs...by making him follow this guide.

Thursday, August 30, 2018

Mistakes to Avoid When Choosing a Domain Name for Your Cuisine-Oriented Business

Are you hoping to introduce your culinary skills to the online community?

Have you recently opened up a retail wine outlet and do you desire to increase sales within the virtual world? You are likely already aware that there is a stiff amount of competition within this sector. Only the best websites and associated products will do and little should be left to chance. This is why your initial approach to marketing should be free from any errors. Many would-be online culinary celebrities fall short of the mark as a result of choosing the incorrect domain name. How can you avoid a similar pitfalls and what suggestions do the experts have to provide?

Grammar and Syntax Problems

The most common and widespread errors involve simple syntax and grammar mistakes. However, we are not necessarily referring to misspellings. There are many times when a twist on a traditional word can appeal to an audience. This could also be required if the original domain name has already been purchased. For example, the website www.culinary.com is in existence (at the time that this article was written). You can simply choose another version such as www.kulinary.com.

The main point is that the chosen name needs to be memorable and appealing to those who encounter your website for the first time. There are a handful of guidelines that are useful to keep in mind:

Shorter domain names are better than long blocks of text.
Suffixes such as .com and .net are preferable when compared to more obscure endings.

Always relate the domain name back to your business.

Make certain that the name in question can be easily pronounced.

While these all might appear to be common sense, you would be surprised to learn how many site owners forego such suggestions. Keep such suggestions in mind when deciding upon a title for the site.

A Lack of Sales-Oriented Techniques

A business name is a virtual billboard that is meant to promote what you are offering. Of what use is this billboard if it fails to reach the target audience? This is when sales-based intuition comes into play. Try to analyse your demographic. What are their spending habits? What types of foods are they interested in? Answering these and other questions will begin to provide you with the insight required to begin developing a well-rounded approach.

Still, the chances are high that your imagination will eventually approach its limitations. In such an event, the best course of action is to employ the user-friendly benefits associated with an online business name generator. The search process is simple and you will immediately discover whether the chosen name has been taken or if it is currently available. You are also able to expand your queries to find similar terms; perhaps some that initially slipped your mind.

Even four-star restaurants require professional marketing plans if they hope to succeed. The same holds true for your online business and thankfully, generating a bespoke website name is now possible thanks to a host of online tools.

Tuesday, August 28, 2018

10 Things I Love About Having Kids

Ok, as promised, here are 10 things I love about having babies/toddlers. (Just in case some of you were planning to sever your reproductive organs after reading 10 Things I miss about being childless)

Here are the 10 things I love (in random order... because as much as I love my kids, they give me no time to organise my thoughts!)

1. To Give and Receive Unconditional Love
It goes without a doubt when I say I love Myla and MJ unconditionally. There's no love stronger and fiercer than the love you have for your children. But did you know that in return (even though you didn't demand it) you actually get unconditional love back? Do you know what unconditional love feels like when given to you from beings so pure and innocent? I do. And I am constantly in awe of it.

2. Love is multiplied

I used to think that by having a second child, love would be some how divided and rationed out to each child and my husband, But I was wrong. Love is multiplied. When I hear MJ cry but by the time I get to him I find that Myla is already by his side, her little chubby toddler arms hugging him tightly. When I see Adamson playing with Myla and I hear their unbridled laughter. Love is multiplied.

3. Life feels fuller

My bed is also a little fuller than I would like... haha. By my heart is so full too.

4. I learn to be a better person
I learn to put those I love and who depend on me above myself. I learn how hold my temper, be patient, and to manage my expectations. Being a parent requires you to be the best version of yourself and to do it under pressure. 

5. It can bring a couple closer
There may be less time for romance, but there is more of a sense of working together. Being on the same team, building a family and a life together.

6. It shuts people up
When I was single, people kept asking (judging-ly) "when are you going to get married and settle down?" When I got married - "when you going to have kids? Are you pregnant yet???"  After the first baby girl - "when will you have a second child?" Finally, now one boy and one girl, people stop asking. hahaaa

7. It can be a shitload of fun

Especially toddlers. You see them shine most when they can finally express themselves and are just “getting” things. It’s magical to witness this part of their journey. Recently Myla got the hang of playing hide and seek, it’s ok adorable watching her scamper off to look for hiding spots. She is still at the stage where she would hide under the sofa but only her upper body is hidden, legs hanging outside. And she sees nothing wrong with that hahahaha. 

8. You’re someone’s mummy (or daddy)
She’s always been calling us mama and papa (because that’s usually what they learn first as is easier to say)...But the last mother’s day, out of the blue, when she cane out of playgroup, she called out “mummy!” 😳. I think she learned it from a mother’s day themed show and tell at playgroup that morning. Oh how I love the sound of it. We have also taught her to say “Daddy” in a British accent like her fairies Peppa pig 😂. It sounds nice lol. They are so mouldable. 

9. You have someone there when you are old

Ok, granted that this is not a given. But I would like to believe that we will raise them such that family ties are strong and tight always. I’ll probably die first before anyone else, seeing that I’m older than My Husband Adamson. Lol. But in the event that I’m the surviving spouse. I won’t be alone ah, still have Myla and Michael.

10. They make me happy
My heart feels like bursting with pride/joy/contentment/and other such good feels... Heck even something as small as watching Myla thoroughly enjoy some oranges makes me so happy. Where else can you get such simple yet such genuine joys?

P/s special mention to my life partner in all of this, Adamson. Without whom, this would not be possible. You are our ironman (manamanamannn)

Monday, August 20, 2018

Review: B-Cure Laser for Personal Use

I got the chance to test out the B-Cure Laser recently. It is a portable soft laser for professional and home treatment of a variety of conditions.
 Laser therapy can help a vast number of conditions such as carpal tunnel syndrome, fibromyalgia, myofascial pain syndromes, joint pain, arthritis, sports injuries and scar tissues.
Low level laser therapy (also known as photo therapy) reduces pain without medication, accelerates wound healing, improves blood flow, reduces inflammation and stimulates collagen regeneration.

B-CURE Laser is portable, lightweight and is rechargeable so you don't need to keep replacing batteries. It is affordably priced compared to frequent visits to clinics and medication and the device can last for 10 years. Plus the discount makes it even more affordable.  (see end of post for discount). 
It's very easy to use, activate the laser and point the (green) beam to the problem area. There's no uncomfortable heat (that I can feel on my skin) that is generated, the whole treatment is very comfortable. It is perfectly safe for home use, there's no risk of overdose and no side effects. 
 There's a bendy stand and holster that comes with this set. It's for propping the laser handset up for hands-free treatment or to be used to reach places like your back. You can use this laser almost anywhere on your body (except eyeballs!). So far I've used it mostly on my knees and wrist. I spend most of my day (and night!) on my feet because MJ is cranky and colicky so bouncing around with him in my Tula helps to ease his tummy pains. I would go miles for this child, but oh man, my knees have started to hurt.
I use the B-Cure laser on my knees as often as I can find the time to (ideally it should be daily for 14 days). Just after a week, it has helped lessen the achy pain deep in my knee cap. I will continue for another week. And repeat treatment if the pain comes back again ...until I stop needing to stand and bounce my baby for extended hours lol. Luckily there's no additional cost in running and maintaining this laser.
 When I was pregnant, I had mild carpel tunnel syndrome in my wrist, it would get very painful and stiff after I am done mopping. Although it did ease off a bit after I gave birth and was no longer pregnant. The pain comes back some times (depending on my activities). I suppose it's because I'm not long past post partum. Whenever it hurts, I find it very helpful to use the B-Cure laser. It's great for both chronic and acute injuries. And it's something the whole family can use. 
Learn the benefits of B-Cure Laser and Get yours today . The B-Cure laser is priced at S$999.70 (GST included). My readers can receive over $150 worth of discount instantly when you complete and submit this form, just type "promo code HOLLY" in the message field. Discount info will be sent to you. Limited sets only. 

Friday, August 17, 2018

10 Things I Miss About Being Childless

Having one child is very ok. A bit of work but overall enjoyable. But 2... who are close in age.. oh man. The exhaustion outweighs the joy at this point. (hopefully things get easier down the road).

I don't know how people manage (or even want) more than 2. Unless have maid or put in full day infant care and childcare. But still... Is madness multiplied.

Don't get me wrong, I love my family more than anything in the world. But there are things I really miss about being childless.

I will also blog about 10 things I love about having kids.... when I find the time to....

Even to write this post... I'm doing it standing up at some void deck while baby wearing MJ (bloody hot) and waiting for Myla to end her 2 hr playgroup. MJ is the kind of baby who will cry when put down or if I even sit down while carrying him hence my never-ending exhaustion since the day he was born 7 weeks ago kwa kwa kwa. I'll feed him after this and then walk Myla home in the blasting heat. Once home no time to blog ah, got her snack time, Mj milk times, diapers upon diapers, prep dinner and ironing etc.

10 Things I miss about being childless (in order of least important to more important)

1. My Nails
Frivolous, I know. But I used to have very long nails and I enjoyed painting them (very therapeutic... I can even change colours twice in a day bahahaaa). Any time I needed a product shot for my blog or IG, I just put my hand in the picture holding the product and it looks very nice already, like it makes the picture. Now I have to keep my hands AWAY from product photos lol. Then I stopped having long nails when I had Myla for practical reasons (First time mum and I didn't want to scratch her). And now even if I wanted to have long painted nails also no time. Basic things like drink water and go poop also no time.

2. High heels
With Myla I did a large amount of baby wearing. When I met Adamson, he took over almost all of the baby wearing... and so I can dress up and wear heels but that window was short because I became pregnant before I could even add back nice dresses and heels to my wardrobe ahhhhh. Now have MJ so each must babybwear one.

3. Food
With kids you don't really get to eat what you want. At places you want to. I usually eat what Myla can share because she greedy pig lol. And in addition to that, another compromise to make now is I eat convenient food because at the moment MJ is quite high needs baby in terms of my attention. It has to be food I can eat without putting him down, so no hot soups or messy noodles 😓 I feel bad pawning him off to others to deal with while I eat/enjoy. So this is what I shall have to forgo for a while.

4. Bed space

Haha. Ever since about half way through my pregnancy with MJ, Myla started coming into our bed halfway through the night. She just comes, crawls in (we got rid of bed frame and mattress is on floor, for safety) and falls fast asleep. She tends to encroach on Adamson's side.

5. Sleeping In

I'm not the kind that needs a huge amount of sleep. I’m used to working through the night because I used to do my work/drafts way past midnight waiting for my dad to come home from night shift work and then watch tv with him until 4 am. I would wake around 9am but always had the option of sleeping in to catch up on sleep if needed.

With kids... Myla has slept through the night since she was just 6-7weeks old. Great. But she wakes 7 ish ( she sleeps at 7ish and wakes at 7ish). Most recently, she started self entertaining herself in the morning so I could sleep in if I wanted to.... but no.. now we have another baby. So round the clock feeds, and no sleeping in for me for the foreseeable future.

6. Clothes choices

Last time, getting dresses... factors to consider were like - hmm, is this too sexy / slutty? Always a comfort dresser, but now even more restricted as i consider breastfeeding access so lots of easily pull down tops and Low v necks . Plus MJ has nipple confusion since we introduced the bottle at 2weeks old... (big mistake). He doesn't latch willingly, its a battle. So outside, i tend to avoid nursing ime and use bottle to avoid the drama. But I don't respond well to pumps. And can't empty boobs so that makes me leak quite often.... again more restriction on what I can wear. Last time leaked at my husband’s after work drinks event. Luckily he went to get me my hoodie from his car but I was still worried I'd leak through that too. UGH.

7. Dating
Lots of family activities, but a lot less couple bonding activities. Well, at least we have our date nights where I get to enjoy his company and attention one on one.

8. Carefree Travel

Travel used to be a whopping throw caution to the wind kind of adventure. But now even the flight times have to be considered to see what would be least disruptive of the kids routines etc.

For long haul I can’t just get kick off shoes, wear comfy socks and sleep or drink and enjoy and movie marathon ... no such thing, I have to tend to kids. And our suitcases are full of baby needs. Our stuff kept to bare minimum. (the meme above not totally true as my husband is super hands on when we travel, so we both on the right side of that pic lol).

9. Taking time to get ready

Long showers. I even used to have pre make up prep okay!! Which involved exfoliation, then a facemask. There were lots of steps in make up routine, it wasn't a chore but I actually found it damn fun. Then I can stand in front of my vast wardrobe... looking at my glorious range of clothes and have time to switch outfits several times. Part of the appeal of going out was the part where I get ready lol.

10. Abundant Sex
Without a baby, sex is indulgent, frequent, adventurous, and of marathon standards even. Hahaaa. With Myla it was still ok, because she's a predictable sleeper and will be fast asleep in her own room. Even now when she comes to our room it's like 4am or something. It's not so much the privacy that's the issue. We have more than enough rooms. But now it's the stress + exhaustion we have to combat first.

What do you miss now that you have kids? (AND IT DOES GET EASIER RIGHT?? RIGHT???)

P/S - Check out my instagram @hollyjean69 for the BMW World tickets giveaway