Monday, January 21, 2019

Letters to Myla Rae & MJ : Gigi Mouse & Soothing monkey

Open when you just want a little dose of nostalgia :)

Dearest Myla Rae & MJ,

Today is just a little fun fact share, and a glimpse into your toddler/babyhood 'friends'. 

For you Myla Rae, is this Fisher Price monkey I bought for you. It's actual name (on the box) is Soothing Monkey and guess what? That's your exact name for it too... lol... we didn't rename him Johnny or whatever haha, we just referred to him as Soothing Monkey before you could even speak. So once you were talking, you called him Soothing Monkey too.
He's a cuddly blue monkey and when you hug him, his belly glows and soothing lullabies are played for 15 mins. You have been using this monkey to self sooth at night since you were about a year and a half old. Whenever you wake in the night and want to get back to sleep, you hug soothing monkey and drift right back to dreamland without waking any of us up. (But, you've always been a good solid 12 hour night sleeper since you were newborn. For this I thank you lol).
For MJ, there's this blue baby Mickey Mouse that your Auntie Amelia and Uncle Qin Xue gave you when you were newborn.

Myla named him Gigi Mouse for you because you can't talk yet. And in her baby speak, she cannot pronounce Mickey Mouse, so it comes out as Gi Gi Mouse. That's how his name came about.

You will play with him a bit, but you don't really cuddle toys yet. I use it mostly as part of your bedtime and nap time routines because I tap his bum and a white noise (heartbeat) plays for 20 mins. It helps you fall asleep.. somewhat. Haha. Unfortunately , you're not a good sleeper and now you just turned 7 months old but can't sleep through the night yet (you still want milk.. or sometimes wake to just have a cry/crawl/singsong/shout, every 2-3 hours. You better make it up to us when you are older!). We are getting the hang of this.

I hope you both still have these toys... or maybe MJ you might have some other version of soothing monkey or something else that works for you as an object of comfort. I never got attached to any object of comfort (like cho cho) growing up, I'm the same today with material things, I don't hang on to stuff or hoard/clutter. Your Godpa/Uncle Wesley had a red tellytubby (oh oh!)hahahhahahahhahahaa. It still exists in G'ma G'pa's house today.

Okie just a short letter today, love you both.


Friday, January 18, 2019

How Quickly Can “love” Really Happen?

Spoke to a good girlfriend recently and she was ranting about her new boyfriend. He sounds like an absolute asshole and doesn't treat her well at all. Heck, doesn't even treat her neutral. 

When I advised her to leave him. To my horror surprise, she exclaimed "BUT I'M SO IN LOVE WITH HIM!!!"

Girl, you're only dating. This is the honeymoon phase.

Yet, you’re having all these issues from day 1 and he treats you so badly... your response is... to fall in love with him????

In love with him? Or in love with the idea of having him as a partner/bf/other half? Those 2 are very very different things ah.
From my experience, love really only comes later on. A relationship starts with just a whole bunch of attractions. With Adamson, I was attracted to his strength, how hands on with Myla he is, his intelligence, drive and determination, how he has presence in a room of people, how he thrives in the role of the alpha and the protector. From there, I became in love with the idea of being with.

But it is only with time and after many months of going through tough stuff together. Only then will you start to fall in love with the person... not just the idea of being with him, beyond the superficial levels (like ooh arm candy or man he's a good catch). Every trial and tribulation we weather through, every joy and triumph  we share is a bonding experience and from this closer and closer bond we form, love grows. 

At this point, I should also mention, that life is not a bed of roses ah, so don't expect it to be all bonding bonding bonding. The reality is, on the flip side of all that ... with every selfish gesture displayed, every disagreement or contention (of which there will be many as we are all but human) it will eat away at that love. I see it like a tank. The tank gets filled as you go along, but it also empties out a bit here and there.

If you're fortunate enough to have found the right person for you, then the tank fills a lot faster and stronger than it empties. If you're not a good match, that tank will eventually dry up and no amount of "IN LOVE" can fix that. It is only things like delusion, or fear, or insanity or perhaps still being in love with the idea of having him that makes you stay.

What do you think? How quickly can love really happen? And can it truly be love without all those stages that come before?

Monday, January 14, 2019

Our Winter Seoul-stice

We spent Christmas in Seoul, Korea! 
This post is a bit overdue, but I still want to share some great memories (photos) of our family trip last month. 
First, here's what winter packing for myself +baby+toddler looks like  -_-  . See already, don't feel like going on holiday.  Hahaa, damn a lot of logistics.
But hey, we made it.. with 2 suitcases and 2 carry ons, for both myself and Adamson and our 2 little ones (most of our baggage space is their stuff).
We flew SQ, it's the first SQ trip for both Myla and MJ...  and yes, finally having flown SQ with babies, I can definitely confirm that the SQ crew are much more accommodating and helpful than other airlines when it comes to families with very young children/babies. To us, this is especially appreciated because MJ is quite difficult to travel with (cranky and very sensitive to changes). With Myla, I always just took the cheapest flights/airlines cos she's easy to fly with. From now on, I want SQ. 
The flight was so good, no crying from MJ actually, surprisingly. (I still have PTSD from when he cried super duper loudly and for a super prolonged period of time when he got overtired and wouldn't nap on our (silk air I think) Phuket flight last November). So stressful!
Adamson's Mom, Sister and her husband joined us on this trip so he booked a spacious Airbnb apartment for all of us. This apartment was fabulousssss so much so that we even said to each other one night that we wouldn't mind moving in permanently lol. Location was great, walking distance to all the must go spots like Myeong-dong, the palace, night markets, the monuments etc.
Heated floors, and 4 bedrooms, and lots of space... plus modern style and fully equipped ( I even did all our laundry in their washer and dryer so no need to do laundry back home after our trip. Yes that's such an auntie perk to look out for hahaa... but hey I'm a mum of 2 with no helper or childcare... these perks MATTER!)
Oh, did you know, my husband is McGuyver? He managed to anchor MJ's YaoLan to a travel pull up bar, with some army toggle rope. I am impressed and also grateful, because MJ needs his Yaolan to nap  -_-  (did I mention he doesn't like changes to his routines...). So if you also have a high needs baby and are using a yaolan, you can use this hack when travelling too!
The view from our apartment the first morning. Love the vibe.
At night it's quite a busy place, with mostly bars and restaurants but within the apartment it was quite sound proof. 

Good thing is, we managed to get a few nights of just us two out and about. We left the apartment after the kids slept. And we were always pretty close and can get back in like 20mins comfortably if MJ wakes and won't go back down.
Our first couple's time out, we had korean bbq and I tried that live octopus thing for the first time. I liked it !!

You know, we never had a disappointing meal in Seoul at all. Every place we chanced upon was really good. 

The only place we could not walk to was Noryangjin Fisheries Wholesale Market. It was like 30 min cab ride. Worth the journey, if you go to seoul, and you like to eat seafood, and the freshest sashimi, go to this fish market.
Lots of stalls to choose from, just go with whoever looks nice to you because the prices are all around the same. 
Sashimi heavennnnnnnn
What happens is, you pick your live seafood from the market, then the market stall owner will take you to a restaurant on the second floor where your seafood will be served to you, however you want it done (raw, boiled, steamed etc).
We picked an Alaskan King Crab and it was then served to us steamed.
Good lord. The sweetest and freshest crab meat I every tasted. I've had Alaskan king crab legs at buffets in Singapore before, but those didn't taste anything as good as this one. Price wise was quite dear though, around $200 for one. However, that's still a  pretty good rate for this kind of crab. The rest of the stuff at this fish market like oysters, and salmon sashimi are actually very very affordable, you can stuff your face without breaking the bank.
One of the afternoons, we walked to Bukchon Hanok Village. A bit of a back-breaking trek because MJ heavy but at least he slept cozily all of the way. 
Very thankful for having the Tula to carry MJ all over, plus the On the Go blanket which clips on over the tula from @maisonelmesasg
One of our final nights there we went to have some street grub (after the kids slept). 
This night was cut short because MJ woke up though lol lol. Oh wells.
Eating piping hot and freshly cooked food while it's chilly outside, mmmmmm nice.

Only one minor bummer of this trip was that it didn't snow. :( Adamson asked if I wanted to go to Japan in a month or so, so I can finally experience snow. Tempting but cannot ah... must recover from this trip first, travelling with baby + toddler really no freaking joke. I'm glad we made this trip though and it went really well (just that it was super tiring for both Adamson and I), so many memories made and moments enjoyed. 

Tuesday, January 08, 2019

Crocodile Meat for Your Dog :)

Okay furparents, here's what was in my latest haul from Kohepets Online. They have food, treats and supplies for not just dogs but cats and other small animals too. Delivery in Singapore is free (and pretty fast!) for orders above $60. 

There's 3 items I want to highlight as it's my first time ordering these and they're new.
First is a crocodile meat jerky treat - Underdog Crocodile Air Dried Dog Treats $18. This is made in Singapore with real crocodile meat from the farms in Singapore. Underdog Crocodile Air Dried Dog Treats is especially recommended for dogs with food allergies and intolerances and it's suitable for all ages including senior dogs like Lola.
It's a great treat because it's high in protein and low in fat and are a great source of essential amino acids. Lola loves the taste and she will slowly chew and relish each piece.
Next is Stella & Chewy's Stella's Stew Cage-Free Medley Chicken, Turkey & Duck Recipe Dog Food $7.50 . It is a delicious and complete meal for adult dogs. Made with cage-free, real muscle poultry meat. It is also grain & gluten free. You can also use it to rehydrate freeze-dried raw food and kibble, or as a treat or topper for your dog’s meal. It's so juicy and tasty.
It's important to provide our pets with all the nutrients they need to stay healthy, problem free and maintain a shiny coat. This is easy with a yummy supplement like PetAg Vitamin & Mineral Gel Dog Supplement which you can just add a small pea sized amount into the meals. It's chicken flavoured!

Do check out Kohepets for your pet's needs, it's my trusted source and has been for many years now :)

Tuesday, January 01, 2019

An Effortless Way to Style

Happy New Year 2019!


A wristwatch is a great way to complete a look or update your style with little (if any) effort.
Personally, I prefer chunky watches, so classic unisex styles with leather straps are what I go for. Though smaller oval or square faces look very exquisite on women. Havil watches has both unisex styles and ladies dress watches, as well as a range of sports watches.
Havil Watches are new on the scene, they are trendy and they make such high quality watches. I'm impressed by their stylish high end looking designs, made so affordable.
You can view/purchase Havil Watches at Takashimaya jewellery section, Ngee Ann City (Diamondlite counter) or at Isetan Scotts, Shaw Centre (Bess Counter). Or online at Havil Watch.
My readers get a Special Price- Sgd 180 for any Havil watch (What what what????!! The normal retail price for their dress watches and sports watches are around $400. So $180 flat price for any Havil watch is a huge discount) when you purchase direct from their HQ. 

All you need to do to secure this discount for yourself is email and quote " Holly Jean $180 Special ".
Look how stylish it is on my wrist :) . This is a unisex 30mm case size, with dark grey genuine leather straps.
The mechanism is Swiss movement giving this watch world class accuracy, the glass is Sapphire Crystal. Of all of the glass, sapphire crystal is the least prone to shatter or scratches. Sapphire Crystal rates a 9 on the Moh scale, with 10 being Diamond (the hardest material on earth).
Havil watch straps includes a quick release mechanism on them enabling ease of style change with no tools required. See where my finger is pointing? Click that tiny knob back and you release the strap.
Changing style according to my mood and my outfit is super easy!
So in love with this watch. Do check out the Havil website for the full range of designs and info. You can also email if you have any questions, or to secure your discount. For the $180 special price you must email them first to reserve the special price, can't just turn up at the Taka/Isetan counter and quote okie)