Thursday, May 21, 2015

Throwback Thursday - Steven Lim

I watched old videos of my date with Steven Lim (don't know how many years ago... Was before I met David lol)
Steven is an okay guy actually, quite a sweet friend till today. Just that he's a bit odd. Lol.

Enjoy the laugh! And look forward to the weekend everyone.

Monday, May 11, 2015

Is Cheating Ever Okay?

Just a thought.
Do you know how many of your previous partners cheated on you while you were in a relationship with them? I know of a few and I don't think I deserved to be cheated on by them...
But, I was speaking to my ex, GB the other day, and he was telling me that a friend of his (whom I know as well) is being denied sex from his wife. And he told his friend that if he is being denied at home, then look for it elsewhere. I don't condone cheating, but I also think it's unfair of her (or anyone) to deny their spouse sex, and then expect them not to have their needs met elsewhere. Don't you think?
I know it's easy to say- oh, if you're going to cheat then, break up with them first. End the relationship if it's not right for you. Don't cheat on your spouse/partner. You're being selfish.
But what if they have kids... and an otherwise happy family? What if there's a lot vested in the relationship? What if they don't want to call it quits .. or see no reason to? Surely, discreetly having your physical needs met outside of the relationship can in a sense 'save' your relationship... right? And what she/he doesn't know, can't hurt him/her.
Cheating is wrong. But which is the lesser of two evils? To get your needs met elsewhere, everything else remains status quo... or to resent your partner for always denying you sex and then allow the relationship to crumble?
However, if your partner doesn't deny you intimacy, doesn't turn down your requests for sex, or better still, takes the initiative to make the first move.. yet you still indulge in extra marital temptations... that is just unforgiveable. Now you're cheating because you're just an asshole.
What do you think? Is cheating ever okay?
P/S- also, a word of advice... don't deny your partner sex or withhold it like some kind of power trip. It's not healthy. If you somehow lost your sex drive, have physical problems or have issues with the way your partner looks or whatever the reason, then find a way to fix it. Just avoiding sex is not a solution.. and if that's what you choose, then don't be surprised if he/she gets their needs met elsewhere. You had it first, but you didn't want it. Of course, it doesn't mean you need to be up for sex 100% of the time or need to be shagging like rabbits for your relationship to be okay... but generally, if you find yourself turning your partner down like more than 3 times out of 10, there's a problem. Pretty soon he/she will stop asking for it.. but that doesn't mean your problem has been solved.. within your bedroom.

Tuesday, May 05, 2015

So, Is this A Vibrator????

A few weeks ago, an ex-bf of mine messaged me a pic... He found this item in his current girlfriend's drawer. It's gold and smooth, and buzzes when switched on. Then he asked me - "So, is this a vibrator or facial massager?"
His girlfriend told him it's for facial massage and he was skeptical. BAHAHAHAAAAA

I told him the truth. 

That thing is indeed a face massager (I've seen this product online before). I've never tried it because I don't think it would really work that well for the face. In order to vibrate at the intensity to send molecules of gold (or whatever) into the skin, I reckon would take more power than a battery vibrating thing lah. So gimmicky.

But then it occurred to me, with vibrators and sex toys becoming so discreet, innovative and so pleasing to the eye these days, you can hardly tell anymore... what's a sex toy and what's not???
Beautiful modern necklace.. yes... but it's also a vibrator. Actually, now that I keep looking at this picture, I WANT this necklace! Very edgy chic.
 This is not a lollipop. It's a vibrator.
Nope, not a paperweight. It's a vibrator.
This rubber duckie is a vibrator.
Is that a thumbdrive? Nope! It's a vibrator.
 Something for oral hygiene? Nope.... you know the answer by now.

Vibes are getting so discreet and luxurious at the same time. For those who want discretion, these new trend in vibes makes it so hard to tell that it's really a sex toy. 

Personally, I don't think I need to conceal a vibrator. There's no shame in having sex toys. But I do appreciate the aesthetics of a discreet one. Some look like pieces of art! So Pretty!! Gone are the days of the ugly (veiny) penis dildo. Those are only good for flinging around as a joke on some hen night party. LOL.

But of course, some of these are more showy than pleasurable. Just need to keep a few things in mind when you are buying one. These are the must have features of a vibrator (in my opinion), no matter how cute or beautiful it looks.

1. Powerful motor. When it comes to the mechanism inside, you definitely get what you pay for. Cheapo ones have crap motors that are weak (read: not very pleasurable) and will usually get spoilt easily. For recognized brands, the materials are all high quality and there's usually a warranty on the motor.

2. USB charging. I hate using batteries in vibes because they are costly (those tiny round little batteries are like $4 a pop. One vibe can take anything from 4 to 8 of those usually. And they don't last long. You will end up spending more on batteries than the initial cost of the vibrator itself. Trust me. With USB charging, you can plug into your laptop and charge easily. I use the same USB adaptor thingy my iphone uses to charge my toys. Simples!

3. Waterproof... or at least splash proof. This gives you more options, like using it in the shower. It also makes for  much easier cleaning & hygiene.

4. Ergonomic. Whatever shape it is.... does it have a pointy bit? And is there intense vibration coming from the pointy bit? This is important for a vibrator (for me).

5. Quiet. Ok this is not of like utmost importance. But is a good bonus to have a silent or less buzzy one.
Show you my latest toy... Twenty One - The Vibrating Diamond by bijoux indiscrets. Got it from  for S$115
This is a one stop site for all girls. I like their concept. The site is bright and breezy, lots to browse. Products. Reviews. Helpful articles. Like how to use a vibrator, how to do kegel exercises, etc.

This Vibrating diamond is so pretty... comes in a glossy gold package and the diamond is nestled inside a black jewellery type box. 

This performs well as a vibrator. It provides precise stimulation, and has 7 patterns and 3 vibration intensities. Easy to use too, just one button which you can click to adjust the vibration pattern and intensity.
The motor/mechanism is powerful but silent. Thumbs up for the high quality, glossy finish. It's made of very solid material (doesn't feel light and cheap). This is also waterproof!! Completely submersible, no problem! Just need to twist open the diamond head and you can charge it via USB. Once you close it, everything inside is watertight.
The size and shape is gives you options and variety of use... there a flat top for areas where you would like the vibration to be evenly spread out. If you want to focus the vibration on a single point (e.g. clit), use the pointed bottom bit of the diamond. The sides of the diamond are like midway between the flat top and the pointy bottom. It's an inbetween sort of intensity. 
You don't have to hide this beauty in your drawer. Leave it on your bedside table. If your BF asks what it's for.. say it's a neck massager (Kidding!! Just tell him la. Otherwise they will start sending me pictures and asking me what it is. lol) 
Check out LoveLoveNotes for more discreet vibes :) (They're on Facebook  too)

Thursday, April 30, 2015

How to Care For Your Skin in the Sun

One if the things I love about Singapore is that you can always count on the weather. You don't appreciate our scorching sun as much until you travel to places which are literally .... grey. And no, not in the fifty shades kind of way. However, even with our glorious sun shiny days, I'm always mindful about sun care.... because yeah it's all fun in the sun until one day your skin looks like leather!
Neutrogena is the #1 Dermatologist-recommended brand in the USA in the Over-the-Counter (OTC) skincare category. Defintely a brand I trust and have been using for many years now. Neutrogena has a wide range of cleansers, make-up removers, moisturizers and whitening solutions too. 
For sun care right now, I'm using the Neutrogena Ultra Sheer Dry Touch SPF 50+ PA+++, 80g and the Neutrogena Ultra Sheer UV Waterlight SPF 50+ PA+++, 30 ml.
To protect skin from the harmful effects of UV light, Neutrogena has introduced the revolutionary Helioplex™ technology that contains FDA-approved sunscreens covering the full UVA and UVB spectrum.
Though many sunscreens offer protection from UVA rays, this protection starts to break down when your skin is exposed to the sun. Helioplex™ prevents this from happening by stabilizing UVA protection so that even under highly intensive sunlight, you can be assured that your sun protection does its job more effectively over a longer period of time (up to 5 – 6 hours).
While choosing a sunscreen, it is important to make sure that it offers long-lasting, stable protection against both UVA and UVB rays. The Sun Protection factor (SPF) and the PA rating measures the protection against UVB rays and UVA rays respectively.
1. Sun Protection factor (SPF)
This is a number (e.g. 30, 50, etc). It measures how long you can stay in the sun without the sunscreen before getting burned. For example – Applying a sunscreen with SPF 30 means it will take 30 minutes longer for your skin to get burn. SPF protection alone is not enough as it measures the protection against the sunburn caused by UVB rays only – not UVA.

2. PA rating
A sunscreen with a PA rating means it blocks UVA rays. The more the “+” signs it has, the higher the UVA protection. (The most “+” signs a sunscreen can have is 3). Protection against UVA rays is important because UVA rays have a longer wavelength and they penetrate deeper into the skin, contributing to premature aging and skin cancer.
Neutrogena Ultra Sheer Dry Touch is suitable for both your face and body. It has SPF50+ and a PA rating of +++ (which is the maximum possible UVA protection).  
I use this when I swim or when I'm going to be out in the sun for a long time. Always apply our sunscreen before you head out in the sun, 15 to 30 minutes before is perfect. It gets absorbed pretty quickly and doesn't have any unpleasant 'sunblocky' type smell. After an hour or so in the water (or if I'm perspiring heavily), I think it's a good idea to reapply. I've never had a sunburn since!
Neutrogena Ultra Sheer UV Waterlight also has the same SPF and PA rating, offering you full protection. However, this product is especially for your face. As it's name suggests, it is very very light (heavy on protection but light in texture). It's perfect for use under your make up as it doesn't have a heavy or grimey feel. It feels more like a moisturising lotion than it does a sun block!
Did You Know?
• Protecting your skin during the first 18 years of life can reduce the risk of some types of skin cancer by up to 78%.
• Severe sunburn during the first 15 years of life can double the risk of skin cancer.
• You can get sun damaged even on a cloudy day! Up to 80% of the sun’s rays can penetrate light clouds, mist, and fog. So even on the days where it's not that hot and sunny, you should still protect your skin!

Head to your nearest Watsons, NTUC, Guardian, or Unity to check out sun care products from Neutrogena. If you would like to try a sample first, head to Neutrogena SG Facebook page and PM them for a free sample. Don't forget to LIKE their page  :)
Beauty begins with healthy skin. Stop whining about the Singapore heat, protect your skin... and enjoy it! :)

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

TallyWackers the Male Version of Hooters

This came up on my newsfeed a few days ago. Apparently, in Texas, there's a male version of Hooters restaurant. It's called Tally Wackers and scantily clad guys serve you.

Wonder if any straight men would eat or drink there. Even if it were in Singapore, I doubt straight men would go. Not that they are the target audience, not at all. But you know how in Hooters... you will see straight women there. Doubt the reverse would be true. Because men have such fucking double standards.

Let's say for instance, at Clarke Quay, if I'm with my husband or any male friend, and we are walking past Hooters... if it's not crowded, and we need a drink or food at that time, we would just go get a table in there. Like it's any regular restaurant. Do I find it kinda shitty having a girl in a thick push up bra, and tiny hot pants serving us? Yes, a little bit. But I wouldn't NOT GO TO HOOTERS because of that.

Now if there were a Tally Wackers in Singapore, perhaps a few doors down from Hooters that very evening, and I suggest to my husband- Let's go have a quick pint of beer in there. I'm pretty sure he would rather drink sewage water for the rest of his life.

Last time ( I think the place was called Gotham Penthouse) at Clarke Quay... I took an ex BF with me to the male revue there (Chippendale type male strippers.. I think they were from South Africa or Australia..). Anyway, he thought he was just going clubbing with me... which he was... it is a club, what! Then after watching part of the act, and the girls up front going wild for the boys on stage.. and no girl paying attention to him in there. He got pissed off. Saying the place was disgusting. And the girls behaved disgustingly. He left. Hahaa...

Shouldn't that read - Delightfully Tacky AND Unrefined?

Oh but it's ok to have the Hooters girls flirt with you for more tips, play those dimwitted games with you and completely ignore the woman guest at your table?

What do you guys think? It's a double standard isn't it? They will think women are jealous or insecure if they don't want to go with them to (or want them to go to) Hooters. Yet if the situation were reversed, they wouldn't want to take their GF/wife/etc to Tally Wackers, would they?

Thursday, April 23, 2015

It's Just His Modern Day Roving Eye

I saw this Chris Crocker video on my Facebook newsfeed yesterday. Apart from the drama queen over reactions (which I don't mind at all, it's a good laugh), I agree with what he says in this video.

Then I immediately sent it to a friend of mine because she was just telling me last week about how her husband always likes photos of pretty girls on Instagram, and would even leave nice and flattering comments for them. My friend is not the jealous type (unlike me lol)... so obviously he was doing this on a scale that was large enough to alarm her. She did mention it to him once, and he got defensive and said she was paranoid checking up on him, controlling him when he's doing nothing wrong.
I went to see... and yep, if he liked a sexy friend's instagram photo.. and you click on her profile, he had indeed clicked LIKE on EVERY SINGLE PICTURE of hers. I'm like WTF, you don't even bother clicking Like on your own wife & kids photos lah.
These pics are examples only. But if it were your husband/bf who left those kind of comments, or even liked all the slutty looking girl's pics, would you get angry?

Well, anyway, we came to the conclusion that he's just one of those people who craves the attention of attractive people of the opposite sex. Like, we don't think this is going to lead to him cheating because, most of the girls he commented on, just ignored him. Even when his comments were in the form of questions... for example (I'm making this one up, because if i put the actual question, and he stumbles upon this blogpost, he will know I'm talking about him, then he will be pissed with his wife).. so, example "Wow! What a hot body you have. Do you work out?"

And yeah... after that *crickets*

So we decided, she should just keep an eye on his IG activity, but the problem is unlikely to escalate to like... infidelity. (Though honestly, even at this 'harmless' level of perving, I find it damn disrespectful). You can see all the sexy IG girls pics you want, no one would even know.. but if you don't click Like, or don't leave a flirty comment.. will die is it?!

It has occurred to me.... that this kind of activity today, is really just a modern and social media savvy version of that classic  Roving Male Eye (click to read) .

When you're in a relationship. If one would find it disrespectful to do an obvious double take and stare at a woman (or man) that they find attractive.... isn't it the same when he or she checks out Instagram pics of people they find attractive and then liking them or writing compliments in the comments section? It's exactly like having a roving eye. Isn't it? Heck it's not even discreet because every one can see your activity. Asshole.

P/S- on a side note, someone should Dubsmash Chris Crocker.