All Shades of Gorgeousness!

Just did another shoot with BagCharmLove last weekend. YES... they have some more gorgeous Herve Leger inspired pieces. (Launching today at 4pm!)

This green dress ($59.90) in the photos above is part of their premium collection. High Quality bodycon bandage material that's a nice beige colour, and the green and metallic coloured design on this dress draws the eye in on the bodice and nips in the waist. Great for accentuating curves, and best of all, so comfy to wear.

Also check out the HL inspired tops. They come in black and cobalt blue. You can wear them with the HL inspired bandage skirts or other high waist skirts/bottoms.

The black and cobalt blue tops are $38. I'm wearing them in XS. In the pic above, I'm wearing it with BagCharmLove's HL inspired matte black skirt. I wear the skirts in size S.

The skirt also comes with a shiny finish. And of course, the fit is fabulous.

The Toga Dress $55.90. Love the earthy tones of this piece.

The Pink Dress $55.90. Love the shade of vibrant pink and the V-neckline is sexy.

They are also launching their first self manufactured bag. I like the laser cut design and it's a good size for work or for toting around loads of stuff. I love roomy bags and this bag matches all the HL inspired dresses and goes well with my other clothes as well. Black is chic and they have other colours as well.

Website: www.bagcharmlove.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BAGCHARMLOVE

Looking for a New Home

While we don't regret buying our current condo... because the building is at a great location and the unit is on a high level with nice view ... we have been looking to get another place to possibly start a family in.

We don't plan to sell our current home anytime soon, because it is such a good investment (despite cooling measures etc). If we buy another place now, we can rent this one out to cover the monthly repayments (mortgage).

Getting a HDB Singapore flat sounds appealing because of the much cheaper prices compared to private property. Some of the proposed HDB projects do look modern and appealing. But from what I know, it takes like 5 years before your new BTO flat is ready (that is... if you're even granted one during the balloting). Correct me if I'm wrong?

Might consider resale flat, although they are more expensive, most of them are bigger in size than the new ones. And I find waiting 5 years for a new flat rather ridiculous. (!!!)

We have also been looking at landed property but will probably not be able to afford it without selling off our current place off first (We don't want to do that if we can help it). Even a private house in Pasir Ris is $2 million minimum (Freehold ones). We can forget about having one that's more central.

Any advice when it comes to property investment in Singapore?

My Brother's Graduation from Tisch Asia, NYU

This week, my brother Wesley got his Masters from Tisch Asia, NYU. So proud of him :)

 My parents, my grandma, Wesley's GF , David and I went to the ceremony. The special guest speaker was Spike Lee! David (he's more of a movie buff than I am) was very impressed that Spike Lee would fly down all the way for this. He's a cool guy... sharp suit paired with trendy sneakers kinda guy.

Had to get a pic with him during the after party... for the fan boy's memory books. :)

Was a nice evening.

When people show you who they are, believe them

Just a quick thought for today... people are showing us who they are all the damn time, but we tend to make excuses for them, or look past behaviour we might otherwise find unacceptable. 

In the past, especially with ex BFs, I used to turn the other cheek so often and so fast that Linda Blair would be envious. 

But now I know, I only had myself to blame. I can't fault them, they did show me who they were but I was in denial.

Don’t make excuses! When a friend or partner or family member repeatedly treats you badly, they are telling you something about themselves. Believe them.

Singles Mingle event

Here's a quick shout out for Dating coach Elyse Anne.

She's hosting a Singles Mingle event:

This is not a random Speed Dating event where you try to get yourself as many numbers as you can by the end of the event OR pretend to be someone you are not to attract a partner.

This is not just a Singles Mingle event where you talk about superficial stuff.

If you are sick and tired of dating and meeting people who are (emotionally) unavailable then, YOU NEED TO BE HERE. This is THE ONLY dating event where inner dating secrets are shared openly with you about how you can authentically be YOU to attract your true love. 

For more info: http://www.purposelylove.com/p/events.html?m=1

Date: 25th May 2013 (Saturday)

Time: 12.30pm - 3.30pm

** Registration starts at 12pm

Address:  E.Clat Gourmet

                 63 Mohamed Sultan Road #03-14 Sultan-Link Building

                 Singapore 239002

Investment: $48

• Includes lunch and drinks
• Handouts 
• BONUS! eBook: 6 Golden Rules of Online Dating (6 Essential Rules to Finding The Perfect Date Online) - worth $27 (Not available for sale or anywhere on the website. Only for participants attending this mini workshop.)

Limited to only 20 pax so register early to avoid being put on the waiting list.

Register: www.dontwanttobesinglemay.eventbrite.com

Do Single Friends Treat You Differently After Marriage?

When I was single... and most of my girl friends got married... I always thought to myself.. "They're gonna change after marriage".

But they didn't really. Yes, they had much less time to socialise once they had babies, but on a whole, most of my married friends have remained the same. We still share the same gossip, do the same things we used to and have the same bond.
But whenever friends drift apart after one of them gets married.. we are so quick to blame the newly wed. Of course... she must be soooo obsessed with married life (that gloating insensitive bitch) that she cannot possible have the time to be the friend she used to be.

Not true.

I haven't changed after marriage. I'm still a homebody. I do the same amount of work as I used to, same flexible weekday schedule. My cooking still sucks. I still like doing DIY stuff esp around the house. Even though we got married 3+ months ago, we already started setting up this home a year ago. Nothing has suddenly changed.

But there are single friends who don't treat me the same anymore. I get married and suddenly *poof* they disappear.

It's not as if I talk on and on about how great marriage is to my friends. If they don't ask, I don't say a thing about it. And even if they do ask "How's married life?".. All I say is, "Kinda the same really..." Because it truly is... kinda the same as before, just that I'm technically (legally also lol) married.

So I don't understand why some of my single girl friends have pulled away. David's guy friends are still the same. A sad part of me knows that one of the main reasons is jealousy. You know how you can tell whether someone is genuinely happy for you or not? Well, there are some people who aren't good at hiding their jealousy at all. They were always there for me when I was going through rough times in the past, and yet they are not happy for me when I am ok, when I'm happy, when I'm getting ahead in life.

Bizarre.

Well, I've come to accept that there are always going to be people out there that try to rain on your parade. And if there's no rain, and your parade is fabulous... then they don't want to be there.

I'm tired of being the one pursuing the friendship. It can't be one sided and if they are having issues with me being married, it's not anything I can 'change' about myself. Envy is normal but acting it out is not. I remember feeling so envious of my girlfriends when they got married or were pregnant. But despite the envy, I was happy for them and helped them have a joyous time.

For those single friends out there who cannot see that my happiness is not the cause of their unhappiness... I bid you adieu.