Friday, July 25, 2014

Women Hate Uncertainty...

Men! They court you, they take you out to dinner, they charm you, they make you fall in love with them... and then the progression mostly ends there. With a big question mark. ?
Naturally it takes time to decide if a person is right for you, but a lot of men think that the most important thing is the chase. Once he has you hooked, he will feel as though the objective has been met and the game is over and won. Now he can sit back, relax and think nature will just take it's course in the progression of the relationship. 

This is when all the problems start. Some people mistake it for the end of the 'honeymoon period' in a new relationship.... but what it really is... is the end of tangible progression.

So to the guys reading this... you may be unknowingly sabotaging your relationship. You see, women do not like uncertainty. We (and our friends) will start to question why we are in the relationship if we don't know where it's going. We might panic and assume something is wrong. We might start over compensating and turning on the pressure too much to the point that we smother you. Or worse still, interrogate you regarding your feelings towards the relationship. Uncertainty is the reason we let the crazy out of the bottle.
Here is what you need to do to get rid of uncertainty (and prevent the crazy):

1. Communicate your intentions. Of course, it's not all up to you, the purpose of communication is to find out what she wants in this relationship too. Is it just casual? Or does she expect something exclusive? Are you on the same page? Is there a compromise?

2. Give it a timeline. Do you know for a fact that you don't intend to settle down until you have been working for a year? Or perhaps you are planning to study overseas for 3 years so you  are not looking to get serious about marriage until after you return to Singapore? Craft out a timelline and make it known to her so she's in the loop and can make informed decisions rather than have her keep guessing what's going to happen. And worse still, act on misinformation.

3. Don't let it stagnate. You don't want things to settle in a relationship rut. Life needs to keep moving and your relationship should be fluid. There's no need for large milestones all the time, but small steps in progression will keep her sane. For instance, introduce her to your circle of friends, then to your family, invite her to your best friend's wedding as your plus one, then plan a weekend away together, give her the spare house keys. The key is constant progression.

Uncertainty causes unnecessary hurt and pain between partners.... and if you've ever wondered why the relationships you've had in the past all ended with because the girls slowly turned psycho on you.. questioning your every move.... well, it's all down to the uncertainty you have caused her to feel! If you're serious about the girl and want it to work, make the conscious effort to minimize uncertainty.
P.S.- I just got back from Bangkok. Was there for the lookbook shoot for the HollyJean X ClubCouture 2014 collection :)  Stay tuned for behind the scenes, and I'll let you know when this year's collection is launched!

Monday, July 21, 2014

The Oriental Spa Chamber

Huang Ah Ma, The Oriental Spa Chamber is homegrown spa brand Mary Chia’s first Oriental wellness spa concept, which has Eastern-inspired massage treatments designed for both men and women. The spa is located at Porcelain Hotel in the heart of the Chinatown heritage area, only a 2 minute walk from Chinatown Mrt (Pagoda street exit).
I made it a girly afternoon with my best-friend, Farizan because with my Entertainer app, the treatments are 1 for 1. 
I love the ambiance of this spa. It looks and feels very traditional and oriental with the red lanterns, carpets and lacquered Chinese sliding doors. It's like walking in to an ancient foreign land. Yet it is combined with modern comforts like soothing piped in background music, air conditioning that is not too hot or too cold and best of all I think their massage beds are excellent. It was so well cushioned, making it very comfortable to lie on, even when faced down for more than an hour.
The session was started with some warm aromatic tea. Then we were led down the hallway to our private massage rooms. We actually had an adjoining room but there are single rooms available as well and even a special couples room with Jacuzzi.
We had the Imperial Chopsticks Massage which is normally $270 for a 90 minute session. But with the Entertainer we pay for one but two people get to enjoy the services. 

Huang Ah Ma The Oriental Spa Chamber's Imperial Chopsticks Massage uses chopsticks as a tool for a unique body massage experience. A bundle of bamboo chopsticks are used to execute the massage in three primary movements - tapping, kneading and pressing on acupoints. 

It was my very first time having an Imperial Chopsticks Massage. I did not know what to expect. My masseur started by tapping my whole body with bundles of chopsticks. I thought to myself, OMG am I going to be beaten with chopsticks for the next 90 minutes?! (haha) But it only lasted about a minute, and when she was done, I could feel a tingly feeling all over. It was a very quick boost of blood circulation. My therapist informed me that the tapping motion helps regulate the "chi" flow in the body.
Then she used some nice massage oil and massaged my shoulders neck and head. Ohhhh this was so incredibly tension relieving. With every pressing motion she did, I could feel my body get into deep relaxation. 

Next she oiled my back, and she rolled the chopsticks up and down my back. It's like a kneading motion to relieve muscular tension. Before I turned up for this massage session, I was so worried that it was going to be painful poking and scrapping with chopsticks. But from my experience at The Oriental Spa Chamber, the rolling of the chopsticks on well oiled skin is actually very enjoyable.

In the 90 minutes, practically all of your body is worked on. I enjoyed the legs the most, I always have aches in my legs so I loved that a generous amount of time was spend kneading and rolling the chopsticks all over my legs. When she was rolling the chopsticks on my thighs I kept thinking, Oh Yeaaahhh smoothen out my cellulite!!!

She also used the base of the bundle of chopsticks on various acupoints on my body which helped relieve stress and loosen me up. 
My masseur was An Qi & Farizan had her massage by Meng Li. After the 90 minutes, I felt so relaxed and rejuvenated. My friend Farizan felt the same too. And she was so impressed with this massage that she wants to take her husband with her when she uses her Entertainer App.
Huang Ah Mah, The Oriental Spa Chamber
Porcelain Hotel
50 Mosque Street, Singapore 059528
Tel: +65 6536 1661
Email: enquiries@huangahma.com
Website:www.huangahma.com
Operating Hours: 11am – 3am daily

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Thursday, July 17, 2014

Where there are boobs, men will gravitate

Just last weekend, David and I were at the taxi stand at 313Somerset, waiting for a taxi to go home when an older gentleman who was standing behind us in the queue started chatting to him. As it turns out, he is Scottish too... and they have mutual friends in their work circle. Oh what a happy coincidence for them. -_-

Then when it was our turn to get in the taxi, David asks him where he was headed. And he said Harry's near Orchard Towers. And David turns to me and asks, "you wouldn't mind stopping there for one drink before we head home, yeah?"

Urgh!!! I already had one foot in the taxi, I was almost home free! 

"Ohkay..." 

So all 3 of us get in the taxi and head Harry's. We have been to this Harry's bar a few times before, because some of David's friends drink there. I wouldn't say it's a particularly nice place to be at but it does get interesting sitting outside and looking across the street at the lady boys and hookers going in and out of Orchard Towers. 

Some familiar faces there. The usual suspects. David is leaning on the railings talking to the guy. And I take a seat, there's just one seat vacant infront of me. Most other seats are filled. Then some old guy (who was pleasant enough) sits across from me. *polite smile and nod*. 
In comes a (I think Filipino) lady with huge tits (I think fake cos they were hard and round bazookas) and a very skimpy top. She was only as tall as my belly button but each boob was larger than my head. She sat a few tables down, and in front of her the seat is empty. Then the guy infront of me says, "oh I better move so your husband can sit here."

And I'm like, "no no, don't move, it's ok" (Sounding like I really wanted him to stay, but honestly I was just being polite because I really thought he was moving to give David a seat. But David doesn't need it because he's happily standing and talking to his new friend).

And with that, he takes his glass of gin and moves hastily to sit in front of bazookas. At this time, our friend who was seated at the table just next to me, jokes out loud " Sorry, Holly, you don't have the same assets as she does." And I laugh, he laughs. Only it wasn't really a joke.

The old man did move because of big tits. Kind of a cock thing to do. Then I felt insulted ... not as if I wanted the company of the old man with the glass of gin. In fact I didn't even speak to him the whole time he was there in front of me. But like, it was kinda demoralising.... like someone getting up to leave because he preferred to sit in front of a hooker with tits hanging out. Quite rude, but of course he doesn't owe me anything. What would you have done?

It's like have a big set of tits, let them hang out and men will gravitate. Have 2 degrees or have acerbic wit, let those things hang out and watch men fall over in awe... NOT.

Thankfully though, after that one drink, we did leave to go home. So I didn't have to sit there, all unattractive and frigid looking for very long. 

So yeah, where there are boobs on show, men will gravitate. Haha (but not funny).

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Ok Bye!

Monday, July 14, 2014

1-for-1 Brazilian Wax at Pink Parlour

Pink Parlour @ Orchard Central
Pink Parlour has been around for 5 years already and their reputation is growing so I've been wanting to try it out for myself. I used my Entertainer app for a great deal there.
Buy one get one free  Brazilian Wax service (each session is Sg$55, but with the Entertainer app, I get 2 sessions for $55!). That's very very cheap for professional brazilian wax session! What a great deal!
Front reception
I went to the Pink Parlour at Orchard Central. The parlour itself is absolutely girly chic. I love that it has the pink kitty cat mascot all around too, such a cute touch. The lighting of the place is very warm and cosy, it's much like a spa. 
Area for Pedicures
The lounge
My experience at Pink Parlour was great, I felt pampered with their pleasant and friendly service. It's not my first time having a Brazilian wax, after about 10 years I consider myself a veteran so the pain level for me here was at a zero (seriously). But I have had painful wax jobs elsewhere even though I'm so accustomed to waxing! I can say that even if you are new, the pain level of this session by my therapist is really low. It is because they are trained in the proper technique and they use good quality hardwax to minimise discomfort. So if  it's your first time, don't worry, you're in great hands and the therapist is gentle. 
Private rooms for waxing
Actually, until now, Pink Parlour still maintains its reputation for zero give-ups over the 5 yrs. Meaning no client has quit half way through getting a Brazilain wax. Everything is over and done with within 20 mins, you can even do it during your lunch break.


What I wondered during my session was how come there's so many wooden spatulas ???? Then I realised my therapist never double dipped the spatulas into the wax pot.  This is a great hygiene practice I wish more salons would have, so there's no risk of contamination or spread of germs.
No Double Dipping
Their hygiene standards are impeccable. Before ever touching the client, the therapist will sterilize their hands using hospital grade sanitizers that kill 99.99% germs and viruses, plus they wear masks and gloves. After each session, their treatment beds are liberally misted with an FDA approved anti-bacterial solution and the towels are changed. So your room is always fresh and clean.
My Therapist :)

The results met my high expectations. Very clean and smooth finish. No irritation or discomfort at all (I some times get irritation because my skin is so sensitive). Some places I've done Brazilian waxing at in the past, would disappoint me because they don't wax all the way back to the butt crack so the job feels so incomplete!!! (Ladies who do Brazilian wax will know exactly what I'm talking about). At Pink Parlour they take everything off, the result is baby soft skin and completely hairless front to back.
There are also other Pink Parlour services available on the Entertainer app for 6 different locations, so you can just pick the Pink Parlour that is closest to you. (Or try them all one by one!)

Pink Parlour
Tel: 6100 7465
Website: www.pinkparlour.com.sg/
Facebook: www.facebook.com/pinkparlour
Instagram: instagram.com/pinkparloursg

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Sunday, July 13, 2014

Someone Told Me My Husband Was Cheating

Yesterday, I had an email from someone who is on my Facebook. I've never met him before (at least I don't think so), but I suppose he has seen photographs of my husband on my FB and blog. 
I trust David, but man... did my heart stop when I read that email. Then I thought nah, it must be spam or a bad attachment that they want to trick people into opening. But as I scrolled down, I realised it wasn't an attachment that I had to open afterall, it was a picture that was pasted directly at the end of the email. So I scrolled all the way down.
And it wasn't my husband lah! This guy looks like an utter v-neck wearing douchebag (sorry for judging you, Guy who looks like my husband a little). Also, this guy is smiling in the photo and David never smiles for pics. Haha. But ok, for someone who has only seen pics on David on my blog or FB, I think it is very easy to mistaken this guys pic for him. If I hold this pic very very far away, it does kinda look like David in terms of colouring.

He said in the email that it was urgent so I replied to him immediately, I can imagine his anguish. It's not my husband in that pic but I guess for him, it's still terrible news. Anyway, I'm not mad at this guy for sending me this scary email. Actually I'm thankful, cos if it were indeed my husband up to no good, I damn well wouldn't want to be kept in the dark. Then it occurred to me... oh poor thing, this guy had to snoop and then find out his GF is having jolly chats with other men on OK Cupid (which I assume is a dating website).

Some of you may say... chatting is not cheating, lah!. Yes, people in relationships can have friends of the other sex. But honestly, if you're in a relationship... is there really a need to go specifically looking to make new male acquaintances? I really don't get it.

If you're in a relationship and still fishing around in bars, or dating websites/apps then you're most definitely looking for something better to move on to or to cheat. That's my opinion. So if you catch your partner making 'friends' online (secretly behind your back) and they say that it's harmless, just to make friends. I call bullshit on that.

What do you think?

Friday, July 11, 2014

Neutrogena Clinical Fine Fairness Radiance Essence

Love love love Neutrogena products and am absolutely loving the new Neutrogena Clinical Fine Fairness skincare line.
Neutrogena Clinical Fine Fairness skincare line has a unique combination of VITAL-IONSTM and Lily Nectar that work together to lighten dark spots and revitalise skin from deep within. 

VITAL-IONSTM technology contains zinc and copper minerals that help boost energy supply to the skin cells as a catalyst to revitalise the skin’s cellular renewal process to quickly disperse the accumulated melanin.

Lily Nectar, which comprises of White Lily extracts and stabilized Vitamin C, inhibits melanin formation by blocking the skin’s ‘melanin production’ signals, which are normally activated when the skin is over-exposed to the sun’s UV rays.
I've used several whitening products before and while there are some good ones in the market right now, their prices are on the very high end. When it comes to the more affordable brands, I was disappointed to find that results were disappointing. I especially hated the ones which promised whitening and had special ingredients like pearl powder because all it did was put powdery white or reflective particles on my skin surface so it gave only the illusion of brighter skin. That's not what I'm looking for! 

My biggest skin concerns, are pre-mature aging in the form of sun spots and having a dull skin tone. So I only consider a product to be truly whitening when it gives my skin a natural radiance ... not a mask!

My favourite product from this range is the Neutrogena Clinical Fine Fairness Radiance Essence, $45.90. Just one bottle can lighten a year's build up of subborn dark spots. It is dermatologist tested to give visible results in just 3 weeks.
There is a dual pump on this bottle which pumps an even amount of two liquids at the same time. One is more gel like and the other is creamier. When mixed together it feels emollient but still very light weight. Just like the packaging of this range which is an elegant white and gold... the pleasant floral scent of the product smells very luxe and high end.  

I just apply it over my face, it spreads easily, gliding on my skin and it gets absorbed very quickly. It has no sticky or heavy residue on my skin surface, so I can continue with my other products or make-up straight after.


After a couple weeks of use, I notice that my skin is brighter and more radiant... the little uneven bits like sunspots around my forehead and cheeks which I have had forever have diminished and lightened. 

Here is my video review of the Neutrogena Fine Fairness Radiance Essence:
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Here is the Tried & Tested video from Neutrogena.


The other products in this range are:

Neutrogena Clinical Fine Fairness Radiance Cream, $34.90
This is a very rich cream provides sufficient hydration for dewy soft, smooth and moisturised skin with youthful luminosity. I spread a small amount evenly on my face and neck every night after using my Neutrogena Clinical Fine Fairness Radiance Essence. When I wake up in the morning, my skin still feels very moisturised and supple.

Neutrogena Clinical Fine Fairness Multi-Protect UV Fluid SPF50+ PA+++, $34.90
Sun protection is important but I don't like it when it feels heavy or clogs my pores and I especially hate it when it has that sunblock type of smell. This product is great because it is lightweight and provides a non-sticky finish. The scent is the same pleasant floral scent as with the other 2 products in this range. 
The fluid has a light purple tinge/colour to it and that gives instant skin tone correction. So it doesn't only protect, it corrects.

It comes off easily with my regular cleansing so I don't have to worry about it clogging my pores or causing a build up on my skin. I just apply it onto my face and neck before I do my make up in the morning and off I go. It feels matte and the finish is non greasy.
For more information on these products, you can visit the Neutrogena Singapore Facebook site, and their Whitening page on the Neutrogena Singapore Facebook page.