Thursday, April 23, 2015

It's Just His Modern Day Roving Eye

I saw this Chris Crocker video on my Facebook newsfeed yesterday. Apart from the drama queen over reactions (which I don't mind at all, it's a good laugh), I agree with what he says in this video.

Then I immediately sent it to a friend of mine because she was just telling me last week about how her husband always likes photos of pretty girls on Instagram, and would even leave nice and flattering comments for them. My friend is not the jealous type (unlike me lol)... so obviously he was doing this on a scale that was large enough to alarm her. She did mention it to him once, and he got defensive and said she was paranoid checking up on him, controlling him when he's doing nothing wrong.
I went to see... and yep, if he liked a sexy friend's instagram photo.. and you click on her profile, he had indeed clicked LIKE on EVERY SINGLE PICTURE of hers. I'm like WTF, you don't even bother clicking Like on your own wife & kids photos lah.
These pics are examples only. But if it were your husband/bf who left those kind of comments, or even liked all the slutty looking girl's pics, would you get angry?

Well, anyway, we came to the conclusion that he's just one of those people who craves the attention of attractive people of the opposite sex. Like, we don't think this is going to lead to him cheating because, most of the girls he commented on, just ignored him. Even when his comments were in the form of questions... for example (I'm making this one up, because if i put the actual question, and he stumbles upon this blogpost, he will know I'm talking about him, then he will be pissed with his wife).. so, example "Wow! What a hot body you have. Do you work out?"

And yeah... after that *crickets*

So we decided, she should just keep an eye on his IG activity, but the problem is unlikely to escalate to like... infidelity. (Though honestly, even at this 'harmless' level of perving, I find it damn disrespectful). You can see all the sexy IG girls pics you want, no one would even know.. but if you don't click Like, or don't leave a flirty comment.. will die is it?!

It has occurred to me.... that this kind of activity today, is really just a modern and social media savvy version of that classic  Roving Male Eye (click to read) .

When you're in a relationship. If one would find it disrespectful to do an obvious double take and stare at a woman (or man) that they find attractive.... isn't it the same when he or she checks out Instagram pics of people they find attractive and then liking them or writing compliments in the comments section? It's exactly like having a roving eye. Isn't it? Heck it's not even discreet because every one can see your activity. Asshole.

P/S- on a side note, someone should Dubsmash Chris Crocker.

Monday, April 20, 2015

Janssen Cosmetics Trend Detox

Detox. Detox. Detox.
Whether it's in the form of cleansing teas or diets, many people swear by the benefits of detoxification. I guess now more than ever before, we need to detox because our day-to-day life is often hectic, and our environmental stresses and modern lifestyle demand a great deal from our body.
Before using Detox Cream & Formula
What about your skin? Stresses, pollutants and UV radiation can also result in increased degradation products in the cells - these often cause us to appear tired, pale and lifeless. Irrespective of age, if our skin is lacking in freshness and radiance, it ages prematurely and allows age spots to become visible.
JANSSEN COSMETICS has developed special care products with detoxification effect. The new Trend Edition DETOX incorporates two innovative formulations: the DETOX Cream, and DETOX Formula.

Based on a scientifically founded concept, this innovative care formula supports the skin cells' detoxification process and therefore slows down visible skin aging. Age spots appear less visible and the skin's youthful radiance is retained. In a manner of speaking, the skin takes on new vitality, which is reflected in a fresh and healthy appearance.

The Detox Cream supports the skin's detoxification mechanisms, stimulates the cells' native detoxification systems and prevents oxidative cell damage. The lipid content of 31% makes it great for moisturising, repairing and protecting dry skin.
Detox Cream contains two innovative active substances: a yeast extract, rich in polysaccharide -glucan, highly-active peptide from avocado pulp. Both active substances promote the level of cellular activity when deposits have broken down and rendered harmless. A mixture of vitamin C isopalmitate and vitamin E acetate is used to inactivate free radicals. These proven vitamins penetrate the skin in this stabilized form. There, they become active and protect the skin cells against oxidation. The cells remain more vital and reveal this by living for longer.
I apply Detox Cream onto the cleansed skin of my face and neck every evening. I love its rich texture which feels luxurious when applying onto my skin. Despite being quite rich, it does not feel sticky or weighed down, the product gets absorbed within a few minutes. My pores don't feel clogged at all. And when I wake up, my skin feels refreshed and youthful. 
The Detox Formula has a much lighter texture as it has a 17% lipid content. If you want to have great detox and protection but you have oily skin or maybe you just want a lightweight moisturiser for daytime, you can use Detox Formula. This product contains those active substances which prevents oxidative cell damage, stimulates cellular detoxification systems, reduces age spots, and leaves the complexion looking smooth, youthful and radiant.
For my day routine, it's just this one simple step after cleansing. When I apply it, it glides on my skin effortlessly and gets absorbed pretty much instantly. This has a matting effect after application, so it's a great foundation for make up. I can apply my make up straight away.
1 Week after starting Detox Cream & Formula
Before discovering Janssen Trend Detox, I noticed that there would be phases where my skin would be very dull, tired and even pale looking because of stress, environment, lack of sleep and basically our modern city lifestyle. The Detox Cream and Detox Formula have shown to be an effortless fix for it in a short period of application. Just within days of using these products in place of my regular moisturisers, my complexion improved with increased freshness and vitality. If used regularly, age spots are reduced and the skin becomes visibly smoother too.
Janssen Trend Edition DETOX Cream (sgd150) and DETOX Formula (sgd160) are available at selected salons and you can get them conveniently online at Janssen Cosmetics.

For free samples, head over to the Samplestore's Janssen Cosmetics page.

Saturday, April 18, 2015

Where Have All My Exes Gone?

Have you ever wondered what happened to all your ex Boyfriends?
pic taken by StyleAtelier
Just a few days ago, one of my readers emailed to ask about a product I reviewed. After I replied, she emailed back to thank me, and then she said she has been reading my blog since "the days of Mark".

I guess my boyfriends of the past were a critical part of my blog. Afterall, they were a pretty large chunk of my life.... so much so that I guess (some?) readers have come to see each BF as a different phase of my life. So instead of saying it like a time line (Oh I've been reading your blog for 5 years)... they think of it in phases based on whom I thought was the one was dating.

Then I wondered to myself... whatever happened to Mark anyway???  So I thought that today, I would share, based on my knowledge, what has happened to all my exes. For those who are curious.. and also as a special treat for readers who have been with me since September 2006 until now. Wow, can't believe it's been 8 years.

And for a throwback (as well as catch up for new readers), I've included links to a few of my past posts about them/the relationship.

One of my first serious relationships, we dated for 2 years. One of the shittiest break ups too. Lol.
But of all my ex BFs, he's one that I'm actually still pretty good friends with. It didn't happen immediately, but as the years passed and we each got on with our lives, we started drifting back together again as friends. And because we are friends, I am happy to report that he's married and has a cute baby girl. He's still in Singapore, and still coaches golf on Sentosa.

Throwback: Bali Trip , Random Trivia  & meeting him for the first time after the split.)

I really thought this was the one. Was my oldest bf (2 decade gap) but the most fun I've ever had. It really started out like a perfect fairy tale, and just suddenly fell apart after a year. I dated a very... VERY... handsome Austrian (everytime I see Chris Hemsworth, I'm reminded of him) for 2 months or so. And made a very arsehole decision to end it so that I could go back to Mark. (Why you all never warn me not to!!! Wait, I think some of you did. Saying that getting back with an ex will end in tears). 

Then Mark and I got back together for another 6 months. But it wasn't the same relationship as before. He was awful to be with, so self centered. I think I broke him. 

Anyway, despite being inseparable in our first year together. And breaking up the second time on very mutual and amicable grounds... and then staying unhealthily close as friends for many months straight after that break up (which ruined the next few short relationships I had as well). We have lost ALL contact. No Facebook. No phone contact. Nothing.

The last I saw of him was 4 years ago when his friend sent me a video clip out of the blue. It was a clip of Mark on his 50th (!!) birthday, out golfing, and he took a swing and slipped. It was funny. Then I replied to ask why he had sent me that, and asked how Mark was doing... but no reply. 

I wonder how he is now.

Throwback: How I met the biscuit, Phuket trip, the break up break down, & an emotional first meet after the split

This boyfriend was very private, so I had to use his initials GB. I had dated older men after Mark (but just about 7-10 years older than me) but none of them developed into anything serious. Then, I met GB, who is my age. I didn't think it would work, he wasn't my type. But we got along really well. He's also one of my fittest bfs, and by far the most chivalrous (he used to always drive me home AND run around to my side to open the car door!). I would say that it was a good relationship and I enjoyed his company very much. It was a short relationship (6 months max) but not because it was bad. Perhaps because of his age at the time, and him starting out with a new career path.. the time wasn't right.

Now, he is dating and living with someone special. (He was dating someone else after me, and I think she was clingy or something.. I can't remember, and he rang me asking for advice on how to break up with her. Lol). Well anyway, we are still friends, and he would sometimes ask me for opinions on relationship stuff.

Throwback: How we started dating, Show & Tell Hungary, Malacca Trip & Why we split up

Hong Kong is one of my favourite cities but this boyfriend... yikes, my least favourite of all. He was a friend from the past but I think the romantic relationship was a waste of my time and effort. Thank goodness it only took 5 months for things to end. When it ended, I thought My GOD, what have I done to deserve this? I'm tired of this battle. Why can't I just catch a break. And very shortly after that (like within days after the break up), I met David. And everything fell into place, just like people said it should. 

HK Bf based on what I see on his FB, isn't with anyone significant enough to be there.

Throwback: Third Time's a Charm &  Dumping me for no reason

P/s- Before people start saying - you dated all ang mohs!! These are just 4 of the most significant (and longer) relationships I've had ... leading up to finally meeting my husband David. I did go out with locals too, but it didn't develop into anything more serious. Also HK considered Asian ah.

Friday, April 17, 2015

Is leaving your toothbrush at his place a sign of commitment?

I just got my husband a new electric toothbrush to replace his spoilt one.
err yes my bathroom needs tidying lol
And just looking at it today reminded me of the time when Carrie Bradshaw (from Sex & the City) tried leaving stuff at Big's apartment and he returned it all to her in a paper bag! Then it was all drama and crisis about it being a sign of non-commitment.... Until at the end of the episode he gave her a toothbrush head to fit into his electric toothbrush in. She was on absolute cloud 9, seeing her little toothbrush head right there beside his, on his bathroom counter.

But those who followed the series back then all know that Big was notoriously non committal and what followed was years of break ups, cheating.

Thinking back to my past... I do think that most guys who can't (or won't) make space in their home for you... Do have commitment issues.

The last guy I dated before meeting my husband would have me over at his place several times a week. I was stuck outside his apartment countless times. Just sitting and waiting because he got held up at work. And he would still never give me a spare key (scared I steal his stuff or what?!). In retrospect, I was so dumb to let him string me along ... always to his convenience and benefit, never mine. And this guy definitely had (actually probably still has) commitment issues.

When I met my husband, he gave me a spare key very early into the relationship. It was not big deal to him. I had gone to his place a couple times after work. And before I left one evening, he just passed a key to me and said it was so I could get in anytime. He also made lots of space for me in his wardrobe, etc.

Girls who are dating now, what have you left behind at his place? What was his reaction? Those who are married, do you see a link between him making space for you in his home very early on in the relationship and his interest to take the relationship further?

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Just Printed Instagram Squares and Pocketbook!

I just received my prints from Crafted Prints. Super love the packaging, you can give them exactly as they are if it's a gift for someone. 
I've done quite a bit of printing at different places over the years and I'm seriously impressed with the quality of these prints I have.  It's professional photo-lab print quality. Crafted Prints is a print boutique, photos are not mass printed. They have really put in effort to make sure each of my prints come out looking amazing even up close. And I didn't even use high-res images to begin with, a lot of the pics I took off Instagram!
The paper quality is good too, it's a thick premium photo paper with a matte lamination treatment which provides added protection and ensures that my prints last longer. All the prints are splash-proof and more resistant to scratches and daily wear and tear. Great for all kinds of craftwork, home decorating, scrapbooking, etc. 

It's a perfect way to print your instagram photos.

Square Prints
I printed a whopping 80 square prints for my brother. 80!!! And I paid less than Sgd65 for all his square prints. His are 4 inch squares. They also have 3 inch squares and cute little 2 inch squares (S$8.91/ 15prints or S$13.23/ 45prints). These kind of prints are perfect for Instagram style photos. Look how vibrant his square prints turned out...
He's planning to use them like buntings for his wedding reception coming up in May. He already had his solemnization last November, and this coming reception is a celebration with friends and extended family. :)
Just like polaroids on a clothes line (example pic above), but the prints from Craft Prints are much clearer and more vibrant than polaroids. Plus cheaper too. I can't wait to see the final look of these prints at his wedding venue!

Stay tuned... on May 9th I'll instagram a live pic.  :)

Vintage Prints
I couldn't resist getting a small number of prints for myself. Just 8 of my favourite pictures. These are no ordinary photo prints... the quality is remarkable and I love the look and feel of these vintage prints
Vintages are also great for writing messages. 
Tadah! Liven up my kitchen a bit by putting them on my fridge :)

They also do these very unique pocketbooks for just sgd16.88 . You can organize your favourite Instagram photos into pocketbooks. Like maybe compile the best moments of each year and create one pocketbook each year. Or you can upload your holiday snapshots. It's beautiful to look at and great for sharing with friends and family, what’s even better is that you can choose to include the date, caption and location of your Instagram photos.  
I think this could be great for a class of students, beats the boring old regular class photo. It can hold 50 pictures, so each student and class teacher gets to be featured in the pocketbook. Makes a nice little keepsake for graduating classes.
It makes a great personalized gift for all ages too. I did one as a surprise for my best friend's 4 year old daughter. I collected 50 images of my friend and her daughter from her Facebook and Instagram. 
Tara loves it! A great childhood keepsake for her.

Visit Crafted Prints to order your prints. You can upload pictures directly from Facebook or Instagram or you can upload image files directly off your computer/phone.

Crafted Prints ships worldwide. And shipping is FREE for Singapore orders :)

Tuesday, April 07, 2015

My Love & Sex Articles

Some readers have been asking me why I don't write for MyFatPocket's Love & Sex column anymore. I still do...!! 

For the past month (and from now onwards) all my weekly Love & sex articles for MyFatPocket online are published in the Member's Lounge

This is Exclusive member's only content. To read my articles, you can just sign in with Facebook/ twitter, or sign up for MyFatPocket membership (it's all free, of course).
Here are some of what you've missed last month.. click the links to read and catch up :) 

Money Management for the Newly Married Woman

Dominatrix Inspired Sex Tips

Pay Homage to the Twins (Boobs!)

How to Hold the Power in Dating

10 Exercises for Better Sex

And anytime you want to read my love and sex articles at MyFatPocket, just click on the Member's Lounge tab on the top of their website.