I’ve Come a Long Way, Just to Begin...

It’s our 3rd wedding anniversary tomorrow! 

I’ve had so many relationships in my past... but it’s finally different this time round. It’s no longer something for “show” or for an audience, which practically all my past relationships were. 

He’s different in every way possible. This one is nothing like the rest of them. This one is for me. 

He’s no knight in shining armour

Those knights in the past who showed up in shining armour, and how I gushed to all of u about their “shiny armours”, but eventually once the shine wore off, true colours were shown. The illusion never lasted because it wasn’t real. Their armours were shiny because they had never been to war. I was so blinded and foolish. 

Adamson is that knight with the dents and dirt on his armour because he has had to fight through life, and is the one who will keep me (& our kids) safe from harm. 

He’s younger

... by quite a lot. 7 years! Sometimes I regret that I turned him down when he asked me out more than a decade ago. It’s like my life with him could have started so much earlier, I could have found my happily ever after so much sooner, and without any complications. 

I just never expected that my One True Love would be someone so much younger than me. When I was out there in the world, making a shit tonne of bad decisions and relationship mistakes, our paths were just not ready to cross yet. 

I used to think it was because he was too young back then but the reality is - it’s because I was too young and foolish back then, I didn’t truly know what I was looking for. And all those past relationships, I played it up to an audience (you) and I got swept up in that warp which made me think they were better than what they really were. *embarrassed face palm*

OMG the Sex

TMI? I remember vividly, the first time we had sex, I exclaimed to myself, OMG IS THIS WHAT SEX WITH A YOUNGER MAN IS LIKE?!

Holy cow, this shit is good. Hands down the best sex. It’s been 3 years and I still can’t wait to jump his bones.

I now have a whole other level of orgasms (which I label  ‘Unicorns’) that I’ve never had in my life. IN MY ENTIRE LIFE! Maybe it’s not so much an age thing, but more of sexual compatibility..... and mad skillz. Of course I try my best to reciprocate those pleasures. ;)

Our Values Align

We have the same values and have compatible goals in life. He’s already very accomplished for his age, but I can also see where he wants to be in future and I want to help him achieve that. 

It feels like we are a team and no one is battling the other for a seat, we know our places. We want to reach those destinations together. 

He brags about me

Instead of talking bad about me to his friends and colleagues. He is proud to talk about any small thing I accomplish (which admittedly, is hard to come by since my life is dedicated to raising 2 little ones for the past few years... and beyond). 

He’s my biggest fan.


He makes the effort to know the people around me 

My family is his family, he makes the effort to spend time with my folks and he cares for them like his own. He’s is a son in law that most parents would dream of. 

I don’t have a lot of friends (I’m actually an introvert) but the ones that I have kept, he is happy to include for dinners, parties and activities. Past exes have met some of my friends here and there, just in passing, but he’s the only one who has made them his friends too. 

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Sometimes we talk about how we never had a honeymoon. We’ve had to hit the ground running... because, life. And we also talk about how we don’t have “our song” and could never decide on one. 

Well, it just occurred to me as I was crafting this blog post , that I do have a song which resonates. And it’s how I feel about how I’ve finally found him. He is my home. My everything. 

Goodnight everyone, it’s 4am and I need to sleep because I have driving lesson tomorrow! (Tell u more about that soon) 

So I’ll end this post with lyrics to that song. My heart sings it when I think about this journey, and it is a tune I know all too well.


I've come a long way
I was a show on ice
Dazzling and brittle
But subject to the sun
And then one day
I went little by little
Back to the water
The place where I'd come from
And I went under
Like stones tied in a sack
And I got emptied
And started my way back
My name
It's got your name on it
My shame
It's got your name on it
My home
It's got your name on it
Everything I own 
And all my schemes drowned at the seams
Have left me fine in my own skin
I've come a long way
Just to begin
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Happy Anniversary Bubba! You truly are my one true love  ❤️  

Comments

Anonymous said…
feel happy for you!
Diana said…
What a beautiful post. I’ve been a long time reader, more than 12 years and it’s so nice to see where you are now. Beyond pleased for you and this post feels like the final chapter to your blog(I know it’s not).
Han said…
he's Asian men ?? why not white men?
Anonymous said…
He's not white men ??
Holly Jean said…
White? No, he’s purple.