Over the course of the past week or so, I had a reader ask me something about BJs. She had read my articles on BJs before but wanted to further clarify some stuff.
It just occurred to me that she may not be the only one with those qns. So here's a peek at her qns and my answers. Hope they are helpful to you too.
Is it better to use your hands together with your mouth?
I prefer to use both hands and mouth because that makes it less work for my mouth haha. And also practical reason being you can cover more area with both hands and mouth at same time. I don't make the hand usage obvious, because I feel it's like cheating lol, but I do slip my hands into the activity when possible. Oh and make it wet (saliva) because dry hands there is not great. But I can't say which is better because it depends on the guy's preference. I used to use both hands and mouth and thought that was the way to go.. but now I only use only my mouth (most of the time) because my husband prefers it.
How to deep throat without gagging?
I vomited once, many years ago with an ex bf. He thought it was funny but I was mortified. But it hasn't happened since, thank goodness. I'm sure there are people out there who can like take a penis all the way in like a seasoned sword swallower. But for me, I find that you need to pace yourself. you need to know when it's going to make you gag and then adjust the angle or for that one thrust that you know is going to make you start gagging you don't go all the way in and then the next thrust can continue to take it deep again.
I read your Myfatpocket aticle where you mentioned moaning like a porn star. Do you moan naturally or do you fake it while blowing him?
Oh yes the vibrations from moaning can heighten the sensations he feels but also the sound of it is a turn on too. Yes, moaning is on purpose but I would not say it's 'fake'. Like the feeling is good and I feel like moaning but I can always have self control and not make any sound... but instead of inhibiting, I just let myself moan. If that makes sense? But please don't do the fake loud moaning porn stars do... I find that damn annoying lol.
You also mention looking like you enjoy it. Is it like imagining his dick is an ice cream and licking it like that? How to look like enjoying it?
I don't like ice cream! But I guess you can do that if you want. I actually don't imagine it to be anything, and also not food. Just consciously make it a point to show that pleasuring him is enjoyable. Don't make it look like a chore. You could still give a good blowjob with the correct technical stuff, while maintaining a poker face. But to show how much you like pleasuring him can be an additional turn on for him.
Here are my past BJ articles for your reference.
How to Give a BJ like a Porn Star
10 reasons why you should swallow
Don't Blow a BlowJob
Should you attempt road head?
There's probably more floating around given that I've been a sex writer for more than a decade lol, but these should cover most of it.
Go pleasure your significant other.
Is it better to use your hands together with your mouth?
I prefer to use both hands and mouth because that makes it less work for my mouth haha. And also practical reason being you can cover more area with both hands and mouth at same time. I don't make the hand usage obvious, because I feel it's like cheating lol, but I do slip my hands into the activity when possible. Oh and make it wet (saliva) because dry hands there is not great. But I can't say which is better because it depends on the guy's preference. I used to use both hands and mouth and thought that was the way to go.. but now I only use only my mouth (most of the time) because my husband prefers it.
How to deep throat without gagging?
I vomited once, many years ago with an ex bf. He thought it was funny but I was mortified. But it hasn't happened since, thank goodness. I'm sure there are people out there who can like take a penis all the way in like a seasoned sword swallower. But for me, I find that you need to pace yourself. you need to know when it's going to make you gag and then adjust the angle or for that one thrust that you know is going to make you start gagging you don't go all the way in and then the next thrust can continue to take it deep again.
I read your Myfatpocket aticle where you mentioned moaning like a porn star. Do you moan naturally or do you fake it while blowing him?
Oh yes the vibrations from moaning can heighten the sensations he feels but also the sound of it is a turn on too. Yes, moaning is on purpose but I would not say it's 'fake'. Like the feeling is good and I feel like moaning but I can always have self control and not make any sound... but instead of inhibiting, I just let myself moan. If that makes sense? But please don't do the fake loud moaning porn stars do... I find that damn annoying lol.
You also mention looking like you enjoy it. Is it like imagining his dick is an ice cream and licking it like that? How to look like enjoying it?
I don't like ice cream! But I guess you can do that if you want. I actually don't imagine it to be anything, and also not food. Just consciously make it a point to show that pleasuring him is enjoyable. Don't make it look like a chore. You could still give a good blowjob with the correct technical stuff, while maintaining a poker face. But to show how much you like pleasuring him can be an additional turn on for him.
Here are my past BJ articles for your reference.
How to Give a BJ like a Porn Star
10 reasons why you should swallow
Don't Blow a BlowJob
Should you attempt road head?
There's probably more floating around given that I've been a sex writer for more than a decade lol, but these should cover most of it.
Go pleasure your significant other.
How often do u blow your husband? Do u think blowjobs are important if your husband enjoys it?
ReplyDeleteUsually once a week. And yes if they do enjoy it and want it, it’s impt to give. I have friends who hate oral sex and then withhold it from their partners even though the partners wld enjoy it. :/. That’s very selfish and not good for a relationship I feel
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