Just want to get a view from a girl on the terms of 'Let's Just Be Friends'.
Generally, when a girl chooses to have a relationship with a guy, isn't it supposed to start from friendship? But then there are a lot of 'dating gurus' saying that you shouldn't be friends with the person you want to have a relationship with. So I want to know the opinion from a girl's side regarding this. Is there suppose a 'restirction' of how much a guy is only suppose to do without him falling into the 'Only Friend' or 'Best Friend' zone.
"Just friends" sounds like a dead end to me.
If a girl states that she wants to be "just friends", then it means just that. From experience, it means that she likes you because you're a nice person but something about you bothers her. So she's not willing to settle for you. Maybe you don't dress nice, or have a nice job, or go to the gym enough...with us women, it really could be virtually anything (trivial) under the sun. It's unlikely that she will tell you what exactly it is.
Just the same, do not do anything drastic such as: bombard them with phone calls, don't buy them gifts, don't follow them around, don't obsess. This will not help matters, and will not convince the girl to date you.
Of course you can be her friend if you so desire.
And yes, the person you're in a relationship with should be your "friend", best friend even. But that develops as a result of the two of you being in an intimate committed relationship with each other. That's a much different friendship from the "just friends" type that she is proposing.
Personally, I don't date to make new friends. My goal would be a relationship, love, marriage. Dating is a process to get there. Dating is not a process with friendship as target. I don't date with the intention of expanding my social friendship circle.
So what can you do?
Be her friend (normal friend). But keep your options open. Maybe something might eventually develop later on ... or maybe you'll find someone new. Remember to KEEP YOUR OPTIONS OPEN and keep looking for the right one... because that's exactly what she (your "friend") is doing.
P/S- blog readers- Help answer Mikey's question. What do you think? Do you agree? Any other views/ experience?