Just a thought.
Do you know how many of your previous partners cheated on you while you were in a relationship with them? I know of a few and I don't think I deserved to be cheated on by them...
But, I was speaking to my ex, GB the other day, and he was telling me that a friend of his (whom I know as well) is being denied sex from his wife. And he told his friend that if he is being denied at home, then look for it elsewhere. I don't condone cheating, but I also think it's unfair of her (or anyone) to deny their spouse sex, and then expect them not to have their needs met elsewhere. Don't you think?
I know it's easy to say- oh, if you're going to cheat then, break up with them first. End the relationship if it's not right for you. Don't cheat on your spouse/partner. You're being selfish.
But what if they have kids... and an otherwise happy family? What if there's a lot vested in the relationship? What if they don't want to call it quits .. or see no reason to? Surely, discreetly having your physical needs met outside of the relationship can in a sense 'save' your relationship... right? And what she/he doesn't know, can't hurt him/her.
Cheating is wrong. But which is the lesser of two evils? To get your needs met elsewhere, everything else remains status quo... or to resent your partner for always denying you sex and then allow the relationship to crumble?
However, if your partner doesn't deny you intimacy, doesn't turn down your requests for sex, or better still, takes the initiative to make the first move.. yet you still indulge in extra marital temptations... that is just unforgiveable. Now you're cheating because you're just an asshole.
What do you think? Is cheating ever okay?
P/S- also, a word of advice... don't deny your partner sex or withhold it like some kind of power trip. It's not healthy. If you somehow lost your sex drive, have physical problems or have issues with the way your partner looks or whatever the reason, then find a way to fix it. Just avoiding sex is not a solution.. and if that's what you choose, then don't be surprised if he/she gets their needs met elsewhere. You had it first, but you didn't want it. Of course, it doesn't mean you need to be up for sex 100% of the time or need to be shagging like rabbits for your relationship to be okay... but generally, if you find yourself turning your partner down like more than 3 times out of 10, there's a problem. Pretty soon he/she will stop asking for it.. but that doesn't mean your problem has been solved.. within your bedroom.