I saw this Chris Crocker video on my Facebook newsfeed yesterday. Apart from the drama queen over reactions (which I don't mind at all, it's a good laugh), I agree with what he says in this video.
Then I immediately sent it to a friend of mine because she was just telling me last week about how her husband always likes photos of pretty girls on Instagram, and would even leave nice and flattering comments for them. My friend is not the jealous type (unlike me lol)... so obviously he was doing this on a scale that was large enough to alarm her. She did mention it to him once, and he got defensive and said she was paranoid checking up on him, controlling him when he's doing nothing wrong.
These pics are examples only. But if it were your husband/bf who left those kind of comments, or even liked all the slutty looking girl's pics, would you get angry?
Well, anyway, we came to the conclusion that he's just one of those people who craves the attention of attractive people of the opposite sex. Like, we don't think this is going to lead to him cheating because, most of the girls he commented on, just ignored him. Even when his comments were in the form of questions... for example (I'm making this one up, because if i put the actual question, and he stumbles upon this blogpost, he will know I'm talking about him, then he will be pissed with his wife).. so, example "Wow! What a hot body you have. Do you work out?"
And yeah... after that *crickets*
So we decided, she should just keep an eye on his IG activity, but the problem is unlikely to escalate to like... infidelity. (Though honestly, even at this 'harmless' level of perving, I find it damn disrespectful). You can see all the sexy IG girls pics you want, no one would even know.. but if you don't click Like, or don't leave a flirty comment.. will die is it?!
It has occurred to me.... that this kind of activity today, is really just a modern and social media savvy version of that classic Roving Male Eye (click to read) .
When you're in a relationship. If one would find it disrespectful to do an obvious double take and stare at a woman (or man) that they find attractive.... isn't it the same when he or she checks out Instagram pics of people they find attractive and then liking them or writing compliments in the comments section? It's exactly like having a roving eye. Isn't it? Heck it's not even discreet because every one can see your activity. Asshole.
P/S- on a side note, someone should Dubsmash Chris Crocker.
Good thing is , not all men are like that. Mine isn't at all like that. BUT I have a whole different set of problems with him. Lol. No one is perfect I guess. Got to choose the one with flaws you can accept.