I don't know if it's a case of people wanting what they can't have...
or if people start to appear more attractive to the opposite sex once they are attached...
or actually a combination of both. But I've found that temptation keeps cropping up now... more so than ever.
It's almost like... gah!!! Why didn't I meet you when I was single!? or shit! Why must you hit on me when I am already engaged to someone!??
When you're single and open to flirtation and all sorts of juicy temptation (in the form of the attractive opposite sex)... you hardly get any! There always seems to be a drought when you're single, and the minute you're attached.. bam! the prospects start appearing...
... and once you are engaged or just married... I have found that it is particularly amplified. I'm lucky because the people who have hit on me so far , or tried to chat me up on the train or in the mall... have all been very unattractive to me. I would say - stupid or ugly or poor or uneducated etc.. but then some of you will label me racist/SPG/elitist/horse face/ugly bitch, etc.
But yeah.. suddenly there were undesirable (to me) men coming up to me asking for my number... I politely say No., but I think to myself.. wtf.. helloooo? Can't you see someone's put a ring on it? (talking abt my fourth finger).
But what happens when suddenly out of the blue the one who comes into the picture is actually a desirable person? What would you do then?
They say that temptation is rooted in selfishness. And that you can’t be tempted unless you have thought about it. So if you think about the fun you could be having (or the pleasure). then of course you will be tempted. If you just walk away from the get go, without even allowing your brain to think "what if", then there won't be temptation.
I also think that people who are unhappy with their current situation would be more likely to succumb to temptation... for instance.. they would think.. what have I got to lose really? Nothing much. (That's why we should never take our partners for granted... we should show them that we are worth resisting temptation for)
All temptation is linked to what you think.Therefore, control your thoughts, and you will control temptation. Easier said than done huh?
How do you deal with temptation?