Today's post is inspired by legendary actress Mae West... (she died the year I was born) I'm not a fan of any of her movies (boring), but she was known for her clever quips... and I read one a long time ago.. and it stuck with me.
" I believe it is better to be looked over than overlooked."
Before you slam me, hear me out...
Growing up... I used to think nothing of any attention men paid me. Then one day... I went clubbing in a pair of jeans, sneakers and a very plain tank top. I think it might have been at Gotham Penthouse. And first shitty thing was- the door people took one look at my grubby sneakers and made face. And later, at the bar (which was crowded), I was trying to get a drink but the bar tender's eyes went straight past me and he zeroed in on two (only semi-pretty) but very sluttish-ly dressed girls. They got their drinks way before me even though I was there first.
I was appalled. And even though it seemed (to my friends) that I laughed and brushed it off... I actually remember it until today.
Now... almost 7 years since that awful ego bashing experience... I've come to see that selling your sexuality or flaunting your assets isn't such a bad (read- disgraceful) thing.
I applaud women who have used their sexuality to get them places and open doors. If you can use it... why the hell not.
What about if you actually have a brain then?
Can that get you further? Is this world fair?
Yes you may have a brain that could rival Einstein... but when it comes to getting attention straight off the bat, a mega brain is just not going to cut it. In fact, it can actually work to your disadvantage. Men don't make passes at female smart asses.
Brains are an asset... if you hide them. Don't be too much of a smart ass, a miss-know-it-all, or worse still The-one-who-always-has-to-get-the-last-word in an argument (That's Me!).
In life, I've found that it's easy to just let the man teach you a thing or two.... and just cruise your way through life looking pretty.
What do you think? Is it better to be looked over than overlooked??? Don't crucify me here... just something I've been thinking about. It's open for discussion. You tell me.