Shibari & Other Fetishes to Bond with Your Spouse

It’s been some time since my last post on our new Shibari fetish. And over time, we’ve gotten better at it and keep finding ways to make it more enjoyable and exciting. In my last post, it was more of a how we got into Shibari (click to read that). But today’s post is about being open to exploring fetishes with your partner. 
You may feel that you have a weird fetish that no one would understand... or maybe feel that your boring ass partner is not into any fetishes at all! But I assure you that your assumptions are probably untrue!

Have an open and honest chat with your partner about it. Finding out that my husband is game to do lots of stuff that would shock our neighbours (maybe the whole estate too lol), actually makes me feel very close to him. It’s our special thing that we get to experience only with each other. 
Here is a Fetish Checklist to explore (add your own fetish if it’s not in here yet). The easiest thing to do would be to each tick off stuff on this list which you are open to trying. Then exchange lists with each other and see what matches. 
This is a random list, there are some things on there that even I would not be comfortable trying... but I’m just listing the possibilities. Do edit the list to include stuff I’ve missed out. 

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Please Tick All that you would not mind trying:

1. BDSM
- Shibari or bondage with ropes
- Blindfolds
- Whips or crops

2. Voyeurism / Exhibitionism
- Watch porn together
- Make your own sex tape (for your own private viewing of course)
- Quickie in public place

3. Anal
- Butt plugs
- Digital penetration (fingers)
- Anal penetration

4. Roleplay
- Sexy costumes
- Sexy costumes + take on a character
- In public (e.g. play boss and secretary in his actual office!)

5. Sex toys
- Use a vibrator or dildo together
- Use nipple clamps
- Use a cock ring

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A word of caution. Don’t force yourself or your partner to try any of these things. And don’t get caught up in the idea of being sexually adventurous. If you make checking each item off of the list a die die must do and prove something kind of goal rather than simply finding pleasure in it, you run the risk of killing the pleasure of intimacy with your loved one






 

Comments

  1. Anonymous7:45 pm

    Love the read. Will try to explore with my wife this shibari technique. Where did you buy the ropes?

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  2. Got it from shoppee :)

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  3. Anonymous9:46 pm

    Any advice on couples who are into exploring with other couples/men/women? What are your thoughts on it ?

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  4. Anonymous10:13 pm

    Threesome! But tie up the other person can only watch wahahaha

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  5. Actually I’m not for threesomes once ur married or ina serious relationship... because I cannot bear the sight of someone else touching my man. It will never be the same after that.

    If my partner is someone I don’t love, then yeah sure, bring a third person in just for the experience

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  6. Anonymous9:58 pm

    Holly, how much do you enjoy being fucked in the ass?

    Was it painful for you or was it pleasurable?

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  7. Anonymous4:14 pm

    Hi Holly,

    what are your thoughts on hotwifing or cuckolding or maybe just the role playing idea of it. The idea was alittle weird to me at first but I guess I won’t get jealous since it’s a win win situation for me? Just concern about after the session, we have no kids.

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  8. Oh cuckholding is super turn off for me. Cos I cannot have my husband in such a subservient position, it’s a turn off for me. And I think it’s not appealing to him either.

    That said... if it’s not something that turns you off... and he’s suggesting it. Then go for it. (Maybe talk a bit more abt it before hand to see if he understands how it wld be ) ... like u don’t want him to later never touch u again cos he can’t get the thought of the other man on you out of his head ... stuff like that

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