You asked.

Happy new year everyone. As promised, here are my honest answers to all the questions you had about the changes in my life recently.

fangz12:25 pm
Let me be the first!
How old is he?? He looks like a humorous guy!
How you guys met? Hehehe

Answer: He is 30. You know, I never thought I would ever be attracted to a younger guy, I've always been an older guy sort of person. But he's older and wiser than his years (I actually didn't know he was younger until later on lol), age is a number but maturity comes with how you develop through life experiences and your character. I've found that numbers don't change this.

Humorous? Hmmm well he does have a good sense of humour. He does make me laugh. But no, I wouldn't peg him as the court jester sort of guy...

Actually he made contact about 7-8years ago. He wrote me an email, expressing interest in having a date. But back then he was like just a young army boy or undergrad. And I was dating men in their 40s. Bahahahaha. I did reply and apologised for turning him down, citing that his email impressed me (it really did), and that it has nothing to do with him, I was just not open to dating younger men at that point of my life. He remembers my reply, and told me recently that he admired my honesty and tact.

We ended up as Facebook acquaintances back then but didn't really make any further contact, until more recently when I had a strange dream about him. That dream was so odd, so out of place, that when I woke at 3am, I immediately messaged him on FB to tell him eh I dreamt about you.

He asked me what it was about. And I described it to him. It gave him a feel good vibe too. And NO, it was not a sex dream ah. If it were a sex dream, I would not have messaged him on Facebook to tell him about it la Omg. I hardly knew him. 

The rest as they say, is history

(I will tell you about he dream in another blog post, if like some weeks past and still don't have, please remind me)

Anonymous12:32 pm
1.whats the deal with the pink tie?
2. Not Ang moh. Please elaborate.
Thanks, ock

Answer: The pink tie quite nice what. Hahaaa we were guests at his friend's wedding dinner and the theme was Pink & Gold. So we both had pink on. My heels had a touch of gold too. :)

Yah not Ang moh... what's up with me. Lol. But I told you all before that I didn't ONLY date Ang Mohs what. You all don't believe me. 😒 If he makes the cut, he makes the cut, I don't choose based on race. Like I didn't date those white guys in the past simply because they were white you know. They had things going for them, and so does Adamson.

Anonymous1:50 pm
What is Adamson's job?
Is he ok with Myla?

Answer:  Biz Devp in ad tech.
Yes he is more than ok with Myla. 👍🏻👍🏻

Anonymous2:06 pm
Do you think he can be a good father?
What do you like about him?

Answer: He has been very hands on, despite the steep learning curve. What he doesn't know, he asks, he reads up, he tries (he's not afraid to try) and he learns. Then a good amount of "fathering" comes instinctively too and I would say, he has a very good feel for this stuff. So hard work and effort + inbuilt aptitude = great combo for success. I remember the first time I left Myla with him for a few minutes when we were out, I went off and came rushing back asap cos I knew it was the first time he was handling a baby. He looked so nervous, carried her awkwardly. WAS SO RELIEVED TO SEE ME GET BACK. Lol. And now, Myla rides on his shoulders, calls out to him when she wants her shower, and he can tag team with me to mind her food/feeds while I can eat my meal. It's really quite a good feeling having a partner who pitches in like that.

What do I like about him? His gentle affection. His strong protection. His fierce devotion. Plus he's very intelligent, measured, level headed, a brilliant strategist... this kind of thing, I find damn hot la until i forget he's only 30 😆

Anonymous2:31 pm
How long have you been dating? Do you not think it's bit too soon after the demise of your marriage?

Answer: It's a very new relationship but it progressed in seriousness very quickly. I think it's because we both felt sure and comfortable.

Yes I do struggle a bit with the short time frame (mainly because I worry what others might think, how some people might feel, it is not my intention to upset anyone). But it was never in my agenda to go into mourning for a Long time after a failed marriage. It is not my style, I'm a pick yourself up, set your sight on a goal (happiness) and go for it. But yes I admit, I didn't expect to find someone special this quickly. But I'm sure as hell not going to pass on him! Life is so short, how many stabs at
happiness do you think it's going to give me?

Plus I'm 37, I know what I want in life and in a partner. (And so does he). We want a bigger family too, so it does not make sense to oh let's wait a year before getting into a relationship because there's a time gap everyone is expecting. Wait wait wait, worry about what others feel is right, and then you die. 😑U

Anonymous3:43 pm
Parents approved already?

Yes. Thankfully. Plus a lot of our lives are family centric, so yes parental approval is important to us.

Anonymous4:35 pm
So happy that you are in a much better place now.
He does look like someone with a good sense of humor.
How did the both of you meet?
Was it like at first sight ?u

Answer: Refer to my Answer to the first comment 🙂.

Like at first sight? If we are talking about very first sight some 8 years ago, then not really. But over the few years that followed, as his photos popped up here and there on my FB newsfeed occasionally, yeah it did make me sit up a bit and notice him. In an "oooh sir" sort of way. But then I got married and I cut out all the possible 'distractions' from my life, cos you know, it's the Right thing to do. I can only be friends with guys I'm not attracted to that way. It didn't affect adamson and I anyway since we were not like actual friends or anything. Until I dreamt about him. And yes, when I met him in the flesh this time, it was a lot at first sight, not just like. ❤️


  1. Hihi, read this post of yours and although I'm not exactly updated with your life (we're acquaintance on FB), I thought I will give you a virtual thumbs-up for this little post.

    I'm dating someone 6.5 years younger (so around the same as you), and his maturity as compared to guys older than me surprised me (and hence touched me too)...

    Hope both of you have a blissful future :)

  2. Anonymous11:34 am

    So familiar. I seen him before I think he does fishing?

  3. Anonymous11:54 pm

    thank you for being honest with us.
    in fact i think you guys look more like a family than ever.
    best wishes!!

  4. Jessica Jes Ng1:37 am

    Holly, read your post then realise the change of your love life. I like your answer and it really give me ... you know ... I also failed my 1st marriage and I am that someone always worry abour what will others say about me... what this what that and end up I suffer and make myself unhappy just to please everyone and you know do what everyone think is right but totally not what I want ...

    After reading your post.. I knew what should I do now..

    Thanks lot

  5. Glad to read this.
    Go for happiness Holly. You and Myla deserve to have someone caring and loving. All the best to you and Adamson.


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