Do Single Friends Treat You Differently After Marriage?

When I was single... and most of my girl friends got married... I always thought to myself.. "They're gonna change after marriage".

But they didn't really. Yes, they had much less time to socialise once they had babies, but on a whole, most of my married friends have remained the same. We still share the same gossip, do the same things we used to and have the same bond.
But whenever friends drift apart after one of them gets married.. we are so quick to blame the newly wed. Of course... she must be soooo obsessed with married life (that gloating insensitive bitch) that she cannot possible have the time to be the friend she used to be.

Not true.

I haven't changed after marriage. I'm still a homebody. I do the same amount of work as I used to, same flexible weekday schedule. My cooking still sucks. I still like doing DIY stuff esp around the house. Even though we got married 3+ months ago, we already started setting up this home a year ago. Nothing has suddenly changed.

But there are single friends who don't treat me the same anymore. I get married and suddenly *poof* they disappear.

It's not as if I talk on and on about how great marriage is to my friends. If they don't ask, I don't say a thing about it. And even if they do ask "How's married life?".. All I say is, "Kinda the same really..." Because it truly is... kinda the same as before, just that I'm technically (legally also lol) married.

So I don't understand why some of my single girl friends have pulled away. David's guy friends are still the same. A sad part of me knows that one of the main reasons is jealousy. You know how you can tell whether someone is genuinely happy for you or not? Well, there are some people who aren't good at hiding their jealousy at all. They were always there for me when I was going through rough times in the past, and yet they are not happy for me when I am ok, when I'm happy, when I'm getting ahead in life.

Bizarre.

Well, I've come to accept that there are always going to be people out there that try to rain on your parade. And if there's no rain, and your parade is fabulous... then they don't want to be there.

I'm tired of being the one pursuing the friendship. It can't be one sided and if they are having issues with me being married, it's not anything I can 'change' about myself. Envy is normal but acting it out is not. I remember feeling so envious of my girlfriends when they got married or were pregnant. But despite the envy, I was happy for them and helped them have a joyous time.

For those single friends out there who cannot see that my happiness is not the cause of their unhappiness... I bid you adieu.