OK parents out there... don't lynch me. This is merely a general observation and not targeted at you or your child (unless you are exactly what I am about to describe below...).
I don't think your child is as smart as you say or think they are. Now let me preface this by saying that I do not hate children, (I used to be a school teacher!) and I would one day want to have my own child too (possibly an only one). But I do hope I don't become the typical deluded parent. (Some of my friends are awesome parents btw, so there's hope yet).
You know the ones... they show you every video of their child doing things you're not interested in. They lose themselves even on Facebook... "Oh this is my colleague Sandra's FB profile, hmmm, I never realised she was a six month old baby!" Having your child's photos in FB albums, on your wall, or even in your profile pic with you in it is fine. But don't completely lose yourself, your baby is not you.
I'm also peeved when strangers with babies look at me expectantly whenever I happen to look at their child... like they expect to hear me gasp "OH MY THAT'S THE CUTEST BABY I'VE EVER SEEN"... when the honest truth is that it's just kinda regular looking ... or worse still, ugly.
I get annoyed with relatives and friends too sometimes. “Oh, look what James did today. He's so smart for his age!”
Oh, so he can crawl. But that's what babies do... they crawl then they walk... it's called growing up, they won't be limp necked babies forever, you know. Why do you point it out as if your child can fly?
How come you don't point out other obvious things while you're at it. Like.... "Hey look, my child can shit himself and roll in it."
Yes, you should be proud of your child. Give them the best opportunities and foundation you can. I am all for positive reinforcement and praising their achievements. But I’m continually amazed at how much parents laud their children as being ‘ahead of the rest’ when they are really just on par.
A two year old child being able to speak isn't exactly Shakespeare reincarnated. It just means he does not have any speech or learning defects.
When I have my child, will you hear me (or read me) go on and on about how smart Holly Jr. is because she can drink from a straw without poking it up her nose? Will I too boast about my child's mediocrities? I hope not.
Parents, do enlighten me. And non parents, what do you think?
P/S : If I have indeed mentioned that your baby is cute, or good looking, or clever... it means I really think so. I don't go around saying all babies and children are great.
On a less grumpy note...
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|Flutter Ruffle Sleeves and Cute Owl print
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