Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Toxic Friends





You know they say.. beware the woman who has no female friends, only male friends? There is truth in this.

She may tell you that it's because she just happens to get along better with me, or that men are just drawn to her, or she may play the victim by saying other women are jealous bitches so they won't befriend her.

But the truth is she has no female friend because most women won't put up with her bullshit. And men stick around either because she is persistent, or they couldn't care less, or they want to get in her pants.

Toxic friends stress you out, use you, are unreliable, are overly negative, and don't give anything back in terms of a friendship.

According to studies, it's women who are more likely to be toxic than men.

I have a friend who keeps badgering me for favours... making me feel obligated, and guilty when I cannot help her. I've never asked her for anything, we aren't even good friends, she is just an acquaintance who pushed her way in to my life and started making demands on my time, money and emotions. I helped her out the first few times out of pity, but the demands just keep increasing, and I find her very draining.

Do you have any toxic friends?

7 comments:

  1. Woah. I was troubled with this kind of toxic friends and yes... females are extremely toxic and I hate it when they start to guilt trap me or boss me around.

    And I have to agree that the guys can't be bothered! I don't know why but this kind of female toxic friend is always hanging around with guys, gossips with them and treat them better than other girls. The guys know how she is like but they just can't be bothered to care. I don't understand at all. Is it because the guys did not get the energy-draining feeling like the girls? :(

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  2. Just write that person off from your life. You don't people like that.

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  3. Anonymous3:42 pm

    it really depends...majority of my frens were guys and they all came to me with their gf probs etc...i spent most of friendship making sure they didnt cheat on their gfs . i had many gfs but when they had bfs they disappeared or they get jealous of me... so this is an issue that varies from individual to individual and is not fair to stereotype all as one...

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  4. Anonymous8:10 pm

    Get jealous of u? Big headed much

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  5. Anonymous9:33 pm

    lol

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  6. Anonymous2:03 pm

    Oh yes sure I have, to deal with them you just have to stand firm on your ground, in the end she deleted me from FB, MSN, Twitter which is all the better somehow my heart felt finally freed cos she's the one who initiated all this mess...

    And pointed fingers at me and calling me hypocritical...
    so be it!

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  7. Toxic friends are real. I've encountered a few who've come into my life. At first, they'll behave like a BFF but later you discover little red flags about how self absorbed or self indulgent they are. If they can't relate to other women, it's a sign that they won't be able to relate to you. Best to be rid of such people.

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