Basically, everytime my friends have a party or a movie outing, I always invite my BF to come along. He is my partner and I like having him with me.
But yesterday, I got into an argument with him because one of his friends (female) whom I haven't met yet, invited him to her birthday BBQ. I asked if I could come along and he said no because I wasn't invited.
This is not the first time something like this has happened. I have tried talking to him about this matter... but no change! Everytime he has an outing or gathering, he never invites me to join him... and it's not like it's a boy's night out kinda thing.
I am upset because when he got the invite, he didn't think to ask her if he could bring his girlfriend. We have been together for 1 year now. It's not as if I am just a new friend so his friend does know that he has a girlfriend yet she didn't have the courtesy to invite me as well???
Am i over reacting?
Dear Treated Badly?
Some people would say that you should get your own life and not expect your BF to take you places with him because you are not joint at the hip.
But I actually feel upset for you. I understand how you feel... because I am the sort who would include my BF in my social life... indeed, he would be a big part of my life, and that includes parties etc.
If I were having a BBQ, I would invite my friend's significant others... (what a rude bitch his friend is!!). I know that I wouldn't want to be at a social gathering where the person I love isn't allowed to go. (With the exceptions of like, girls only type parties or my work related lunches or formal wedding dinners if the host has a very limited amount of seating, of course)
So, I think it's very odd that your boyfriend never takes you along to any gatherings. If your boyfriend wanted you to come, I think he would have asked his friend if he could bring you. If he wanted you there, he would have made it happen (or at least try to), some men are self-centred like that.
Sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but it's what I think. I wouldn't want to be with him... can you imagine having a partner this selfish fot the rest of you life? If you want to try to fix this, then stop inviting him along... go on your own, have a blast (or pretend to!) and make sure he knows all about it. Either he will realise how it feels to be left out or this plan backfires and he'll be very very happy he doesn't have to tag along with you anymore (which is quite possible).
Maybe my readers can offer their opinions on this matter.
P/S- I wouldn't say that you are treated badly, but it sure does SUCK.