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10 Signs Your Man Is Cheating
You can compromise on a lot of things in a relationship; time, money and even sex. But one thing you should never compromise on is fidelity. Even so, you cannot be around your man 24-7. So how would you know if he’s being faithful? Or not.
You don’t need an expensive private investigator but there are little everyday things which you can look out for. I call these Relationship Red Flags.
10. Clams Up
Beware of any sudden changes in your man’s personality. If he always used to be talkative… has he suddenly gone quiet all the time? People find it difficult to keep up with their lies, so instead of sharing with you about his day and activities (like he used to), you may find that he suddenly clams up (for fear of revealing too much).
He has a mobile phone but doesn’t pick up or it’s switched off. The usual excuses would be that he couldn’t get good reception, batteries were dead or he left the phone in the car. Be wary if this happens often.
8. Car Changes
Has the passenger seat been adjusted? Is there an unknown strand of hair? Is the radio tuned in to a different station than the usual one? Or is the aircon vent pointed to a different direction from where you left it?
7. IntimacyTake note of any changes in frequency or quality of sex. Is he notieably less affectionate or more affectionate with you? A man may suddenly show ore affection to his partner because he feels guilty about the affair, or he may show less affection because of his commitment to someone else.
6. Image Revamp
If he hasn’t been particular about his dressing all along but suddenly takes an interest in fashion and his image - his makeover is probably not meant for you.
5. The Vanishing
Does he go to the supermarket to buy some cigarettes but takes 2 hours to return home? Does he work late all the time through the night? Work is commonly used as an excuse to account for large blocks of time away from home.
4. Where the Money?
Cheating is expensive. If your man seems to spend more money than usual, and yet you can’t see where the money went… maybe it’s time to start getting hold of his credit card statements or fish around for old receipts. No man can be 100% perfect, he will leave a trail.
3. Sneaky phone habits
Does he leave the room when he gets a call? Does he get mysterious late night phone calls? Does he take his mobile phone all over with him, including the toilet? (Maybe he can’t leave it alone because there’ll be incriminating evidence in it)!
2. Too Clean
You don’t have to smell the perfume or see the lipstick marks on his collar… it’s unlikely he’ll make such a grave mistake. Generally, men don’t like to change. It’s always the same soap, same aftershave, same deodorant, etc. So, if your man is suddenly cleaner than usual, it’s because he’s trying to get rid of any evidence left on him.
1. Your Gut Says So
A woman’s intuition is usually right. Without hinting at your suspicion of them, tell him that your friend confided in you that someone told her that they had seen her husband out with another woman. If he is guilty of cheating, when he hears this, he will panic. See if you can catch any signs of alarm or nervousness in him.
*Word of caution* Under no circumstances should you fly into a rage and accuse him of being a cheat simply because a couple of red flags go up! These red flags should be taken as a warning that something may be amiss, and that you should pay more attention to your relationship, just to make sure nothing is going on.(Please do leave your comments and Other signs you know of).
The last thing you want is to be the fool who doesn’t see everything that’s happening right under her nose!
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