What I Look For in a Man


A good man is one with manners and who treats others with respect. I dislike people who are unnecessarily rude to others. He also needs to be someone that deserves respect because he conducts himself well, and has good family values.

That's loyalty and faithfulness. I’d much rather have a partner be man enough to break up with me than out cheating behind my back. If you want to be with me then stay mine, and I will give the same commitment back to you.

I could not be in a relationship with someone who wasn't on the same wavelength as me, humour wise. I want somebody to laugh with... and sometimes laugh at.

Honesty is very important also but I prefer a man who can be honest without being insensitive. Just because it's the truth, doesn't mean you have the right to just blurt it out and hurt people.

Financially Stable
A financially stable man isn't one who is rich or makes a lot of money, but he handles his money well. Even a man with a big fat monthly pay check can be broke. Trust me, I know plenty of people like that.

What about you? What do you look for in a partner? Does your current partner have all those characteristics you desire?


  1. I want to be with someone that when i wake up in the morning, she is the first thing i wanna see.

  2. Yes, those qualities are very important for me as well. A good sense of humour is high on the list as I do enjoy laughing with and at my guy. I am pretty much a black and white person. If I'm not happy being with someone, I'd move on. I'm really not the kind of girl who would hang onto a relationship until someone better comes along and I've been told in the past that I should change and keep my options open. But no, not something I would do. Financial and emotional stability is also high on my list. He doesn't have to be filthy rich (as you mentioned) but he needs to know the value of money and be able to live within his means and save up for the future.

    Thankfully, after years of being alone and wondering where my prince charming is, I met someone who possesses the qualities I have been looking for. It has taken a long time and I have kissed a few frogs along the way, but I am glad I did not settle. :)

  3. Anonymous12:36 am

    My current partner used to be everything I wanted but he changed for the worse. It's painful to watch him change over the 4 years we have been together. But my heart rules over my head. I can't leave someone I love unless my heart is dead for him.

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  5. Anonymous6:15 am

    a man like Isaac tng is good

  6. Anonymous2:52 pm

    someone who has similar values n beliefs as me....an open mind who is curious about the world & respectful towards differences, upholds the importance of honesty & loyalty, loves to live in the moment, focuses more on being positive rather then giving in to fear a lot, confidence in the form of that inner quiet confidence in knowing himself & being comfortable with himself, strength in the form of his presence, sensitivity in the form of understanding tht women are diff & most r more emotional

    & yes...it is so painful when the one u love changes afyer a few years...its like you no longer resonate with him....n then ppl will challenge u by asking if ur love realy is unconditional.....should u stay or go? its a very difficult decision n if u stay then it takes a lot fo courage to hopefully help inspire him to be that man u fell in love with again.

  7. Anonymous1:37 am

    My man has all the traits. But let me tell u that it is quite different. That these r what we look for in a man, versus having to accept and live with those qualities after marriage.
    I know, after 5 yrs and 2 kids (but we were classmates since 1998).

    My take on the above comment, is to acccept that everyone changes. The trick for a couple is to stay updated on each other's changes (not talking abt infidelity here),acknowledge the changes and PROGRESS together.

    Lastly, dont forget to fulfil (& upkeep) those qualities that he 'wanted' in you as well.
    To be fair =P

    Just my two cents =)


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