Why does PDA get such a bad rep?"GET A ROOM" people frequently say in disapproval whenever a couple starts kissing or being affectionate in public.
While I don't necessarily endorse re-enacting a scene from a porno right there in the window display of H&M, or on the MRT train... I do endorse affection, public or not, and I think that the notion that it should be all be confined to the couple's own bedroom is bordering on insane.
I love it when my BF calls me by pet names he has for me (so far... it's toots, holly pops, bambina and fatso junior). I love all of them. He doesn't use it in the presence of others (or at least, he uses it much less). I also try to address him by his proper name in public.. but I find that it's almost a reflex action to call my BF by his pet name (which... due to my lack of imagination is usually Darling, or fatso). If it slips out. it slips out. Life goes on.
But I don't understand why some people get very uptight about not using pet names in public. Does it hurt anyone? Of course not. If anything, I think it’s easier for people to stop eavesdropping on my conversation than it is for me to reword my vocabulary. It's ridiculous for people to feel uncomfortable over something sweet and harmless.
I like holding hands. I like kissing and being kissed. I like to cuddle. If I feel like giving my man a kiss, I’m going to do it. If I feel like putting my hand on his arse (over his jeans), I'll do just that. Why should the public feel uneasy or judgemental about it? I’m not groping you, so relax!
You know, in the shuttle bus in Glasgow airport, there was a couple standing in front of me, against the bus window (this airport shuttle has no seats.. only passengers and their luggage). Well, it was cold. And this couple were standing so close, he was embracing his girl. And they kept kissing. David and I, were both shit tired (we had a long transit in Dubai before this flight). And my huge suitcase was in between us... not cuddling or anything. I felt envious. of that couple. Jealous even. (But I did not scowl in disgust like some people might)
Then... I don't know if David felt the way I did, or if he's actually not neurotic like I am, and he truly just felt like it.. he pulled me in for a squeeze and kissed the top of my head before we got off the shuttle. It's the little displays of affection like this which I love.
So I can't understand why some people hate it. If seeing any physical expression of romance is offensive to you, I think it’s time to take your heart out of the freezer. Either that or just avert your eyes and look elsewhere. Couples shouldn’t feel stifled by public judgment.
There’s nothing gross about being in love.
FYI, my parents still hold hands in the public and my dad kisses us n our mom in the public so how does making a parent change this thoughts? So long it is not like gross and you know fondling each other rude areas, I do not see a problem.
And really tight hugs fine too.
But no taking clothes off. No putting hands under skirts or into blouses etc. That's too much imho.
A kiss on the lips or cuddling is fine, but what irks me the most is when people make out or the girl puts her legs on her guy's thighs in public. What's she trying to prove, that this is her territory?
I wouldn't feel comfortable making out in public, and neither do I want to cause others the same discomfort. What's even worse is seeing ugly people shove their tongue into their significant other's mouth. It may seem shallow and discriminative of me, but let's be honest: it's just nasty and, IMO, inconsiderate. Nobody's saying they shouldn't be allowed to, just do it behind closed doors.
Would you make out in front of your parents? I wouldn't. Likewise applies with strangers.