I've been listening to everything that my readers have said. I read every email and every comment, even though I may not always have the time to respond to each one individually.
I’ve come to realize something... when I say "dating"I mean going out with a man with the potential of it moving on to te level of romance/ exclusivity... but many people associate dating with something more serious. Hence dating two or more men at any phase is considered cheating, playing him out, leading him on.
Webster's Dictionary defines dating as “ social engagements with persons of the opposite sex” (Hmm... excuse me, Mr Webster, but don’t gay men and lesbians date??)
Dating is the activity of looking for a suitable partner for an intimate relationship. The word refers to two daters agreeing on a time and date when they can meet and engage in some activity, thereby assessing their suitability for one another. A person should date many different partners during the same time period in order to have the best chance of finding their most suitable available mate. As in the marketplace, liquidity is essential for all participants to achieve the best outcome available to them.
But many people don't do that, and I am wondering ... why?
If you haven't asked the man you're dating if he's seeing other people and you've already stopped meeting other men, aren't you opting for the short end of the stick? Especially if he's not even "your man."
I assume anyone I go out with is seeing other women, too. And I have no problem telling a guy that's what I'm doing. Until we mutually decide to be exclusive.
I'm actually only dating one person right now.. but is he that other pea in the pod? I don't know. It's been 5 or 6 dates now, and a couple of dates ago, I kinda lost interest in dating anyone else. I don't desire to look for new potential mates or revive old ones. I have the option of dating others, but at this point, I'm not fussed about it either way.
How do you handle the subject of exclusivity? If a woman asks you if you're seeing others, do you think she's trying to trap you? If a man wants exclusivity, do you think it's only to get in your pants? Does it bother you if your date happens to date several people at the same time? And why is Webster so clueless? :)