Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Relax, It's Just Bali... Not Mars

In response to some of the comments from my earlier post- I'm not looking for your pity and I certainly am aware that I am the creator of any mess I find myself in... hence the title - Oh What A Tangled Web I Weave.

I'm not perfect and I cannot tell the future either. I'm dealing with these imperfections and uncertainties in life. And at the same time, I'm living life and staying true to myself. I'm doing what I feel is right for me.

Sure, you may not agree with how I live my life, and I respect that. You are entitled to your own opinion.

But for you to jump to conclusions because I fly to Bali with a male friend... (to join a whole bunch of other people in Bali...)... I feel is downright insular on your part.

As long as I'm single, I can travel with whoever I want to... and even if I were attached, the only person I would have to take into consideration is my partner, and not you.
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Plus the main point of the trip to Bali was to meet my cousin (& company) who flew to Bali from Australia as part of her 30th Birthday celebration.
She's only 7 months older than me so we're very close. (Soon, it'll be my turn to turn 30!)

The Aussie bunch arrived on Thursday. But my friend and I only arrived on Sarurday and we checked into our hotel at Seminyak pretty late (8pm), so we didn't do much that first night except pop out to Hu'u Bar for dinner. I had foie gras, and I can't remember what I had for my main (haha). (Pictures of hu'u bar are in my friend's camera, I'll update later)

I wore a Purple Icicle dress from GipsyScarlet. I'm lemming for their ombre tube dresses from collection 3 next. I've been wearing my hair up and away from my face quite often lately.

After I take the chostick out of my hair bun, I always get wavy hair... and I quite like it... I'm wondering if I should go for a hairstyle with more volume next, or stick to straight rebonded hair?

The weather the next day was fantastic. Blue skies as far as the eye can see. We did a short beach walk and then went to Kuta for lunch. I hate kuta... so smogy and busy.

In the evening, we all went to Jimbaran beach for a fresh seafood feast. Lobster, prawns, fish...ice cold beers... extreme yums.

We dined right on the beach, by candlelight, with the waves lapping in the background.

The Mariachi (spell??) band played a few songs for us, while I hopped around trying to photograph it. Typical Singaporean I am... can't just relax and enjoy the moment (!).


The next day was spent sight seeing. Went up to Ubud, which is more idyllic than Kuta.


Had a nice lunch at this restaurant by a paddy field.

Food was great, the only shitty thing for me is that they had these Frog things on th table. *puke* I hate frogs, makes me feel like vomiting!

But I soon got over it once my food arrived. I ordered Crispy Duck!! Absolute Heaven! I know the pic doesn't make it look too appetising... but trust me, it was soooooooo crispy, tasty, lip smackingly good!

We also spent some time with the monkeys in Monkey Forest.

And then drove up to the top of some volcano that now has a lake in it or something. Unfortunately, by the time we got there, the weather turned shitty. Overcast.
Our last night there, was spent watching the sunset and then dinner at Kudeta. I had a different type of foie gras this time (mixed with prawn).

And crabmeat linguine (in entree size) for my main. Good!!

Then the rest of the evening was spent lounging at Kudeta.


This cute Polkadot number (with a pink satin kimono inspired sash) I'm wearing is from The199Shop.

mmmmm.... lychee martini.....

Damn it! I dropped my lychee on the floor!

I absolutely loved my room (at Anantara, Seminyak). It had access to a private pool, so every morning I'd just slide the bedroom door open and I can slip right into the pool!
The white dresses I'm wearing in the pic above and the pic below are from ClubCouture.

The main pool at the hotel was a nice infinity pool but I didn't use it at all. If I had shitloads of money, I'd want to have a house with a small pool that's connected to my bedroom.
I had a nice break but it's really good to be back home. Poor baby Lola had to sleep alone in my bed for 3 nights.

Just cleared my email and some work. I'm freaking tired. Need Sleep.

Good night!

P/S- If I'm secretly pleased that I dropped a couple of kilos in the last month (without even trying to lose weight).... does it make me crazy? Weight is now 46Kgs. So at 1.65 m, I think my BMI is at an all time low. But I think it's just a phase, and I'll probably just put those Kilos right back on (just as magically as I lost it) in a few weeks.

52 comments:

  1. Hj i think u look fantastic in the shots! Im esp jealous of those glorious food! Im really dying n craving for Asian dishes here.. Esp those deadly spicy ones!

    Looking @ ur pics reminds me that i need a beach vacation soon!

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  2. Anonymous7:30 am

    God, the wavy hair is sooooooooo much better on you. Stick-straight hair is so passe.

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  3. Celestina8:12 am

    Errrrrrrkkk!! Each time i read yr blog after yr holiday jus make me wana pack & go too!!! :S

    U look great & im sure u really had a gd time.. so envy : )

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  4. HJ,

    46Kgs is much too low for your height. Your BMI is 16.9.

    Anything under 18.5 is underweight for Caucasians female. For Asians, anything under 17.5 is definitely underweight.

    For your height, you should not go below 50kgs. And your healthy weight is anything between 51 and 60kgs.

    low body mass can decrease your body's immune system, which could lead to ilness

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  5. I agree with DHHS. You look good but you need to put the weight on. The weight loss is apparent especially when you have your hair up. You'd look way better with more meat on your bones, especially since you're very tanned and toned.

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  6. Anonymous9:45 am

    Did you go Bali with the guy you ditched just before you got back with Mark the last round?

    Anyway, not that you have your readers to answer to. Just that if you don't want nasty comments, then keep some parts of your life private...and oh, joining a big bunch of others doesn't mean you're not bonking whoever you're going Bali with! LOL...

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  7. @9.45 - Nope.

    I have no problems with readers making comments. But rude and insular ones aren't particularly appreciated. Never said they couldn't comment or disagree though.

    oh... so it's down to bonking is it? Well, in that same train of thought... you should also realise tht I don't have to go all the way to Bali with someone just to bonk them anyway! LOL....

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  8. Anonymous12:17 pm

    HJ,

    I am going to be open here with you. You have been in quite a few relationships for your 30 years. It appears most of these guys left you and not vice versa. It also appears you did not want to come out of these relationships but had to without a choice as the other party always wanted out.

    Could i state that you are sending the wrong msg out there to guys. You need to have some asian values. Yep it is your blog and you are free to air whatever you want, but it seems that when you talk about sex or relationships,you are trying too hard to seem like a know it all. Somehow, if you are that experienced and have been in a long relashionship then you should dispense advice , but you are 30 and you are still weighing your options all the time. Have you ever asked yourself why do guys end up leaving you if yo have it all together, and do you honestly know the true meaning of love? It seems to me you are just trying to define the mating ritual as in, a woman must be with a man. Which is why you date so much, have slept around so much, shacked it up and played house with a few guys and are still looking and the guys who are dating you do not know about each others' existence.

    How can you expect men to see you as a lifetime commitment. You put yourself out there in the wrong way. Why topless shots. You make yourself appear easy then when on dates and guys get over physical with you like the chinese guy, you get disgusted.

    Have you ever thought about the one guy you may end up truly getting married to? Like i said no guy wants a wife who has been around the block, and why have all your bfs been okay with your blog display of everything, because they knew what they have with you is not for a lifetime. In one blog, there are so many guys associated with you, and just for the record not all your posts on sex and reships are facts.

    I feel bad for your family as well. Cos, i am not sure there is anything at this point that would make them proud of you. A woman's or man's body and reshp and sexcapades are meant to be a diary, not a book in a library where everyone can have access to it. Which is why a diary is in mint condition aft years but a book that is borrowed by many become worn and torn and chucked back on the shelf. I hope you understand.

    I am a woman too and i don't mean to insult you. I am younger than you and if my post has hurt you in any way, my apologies, but i hope you wake up and see things for what they really are.

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  9. Anonymous1:04 pm

    I think HOlly has got her every right to write whatever she wants and that is not for anyone to comment. If you're not pleased with whatever she writes just simply cos she feels like it or it's her way of life, then don't visit her blog. :)

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  10. Celestina3:34 pm

    With so much said, sometimes I pity HJ. Sometimes i admire her honesty, her transparency.

    Well, watever has been commented by readers, some i hv to agree & some i dun. No rite or no wrong here.

    It takes lots of courage & transparency for some 1 like HJ to share everyting on the blog wif her readers. Come on people, u hv to agree with me on this point rite?

    Tats te reason why i'm still her faithful reader. Yes, i dun condone everything she does at times, but i do enjoy reading her blog. Like te saying goes, one man's meat is another man's poison.
    Those who cant stand her, then dun visit her blog. Why stil keep coming back?

    To me i hv to say, not everyone can take such public scrutiny. Some of the comments are indeed crude & insulting. But Im sure HJ is all prepared for these since she is a blogger.

    There is always someting to learn frm all comments frm readers.
    HJ, hope u felt te same...

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  11. Anonymous3:46 pm

    i'm 1.65 m and 51 kg which means I should be at a close-to-perfect BMI no? But I have a pot belly and big flabby bum :( and I eat like a horse. So this BMI thing is bullshit. Go by how you feel and look. I think you look fine and pretty.

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  12. What happens to Lola when you were away? My concern is whether she is fed... =P

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  13. Anonymous5:36 pm

    I agree totally with anon 12.17. So much truth to that. It's not so much about who dumped whom but the fact that her relationships all failed and she'll jump from getting out of a serious relationship straight to dating someone else right away. It's quite pathetic. Holly really ought to be alone for a bit instead of jumping from man to man...or men to men?

    And anon 1.04, if she doesn't want comments, especially nasty ones, then don't openly blog about her stuff. She's a blogger, we're reader and just because we give negative comments doesn't mean we're not curious what's happening next.

    Oh...I guess it's not about bonking someone in Bali but the fact that you tried to make it sound "innocent" by saying you two were joined by a big bunch of people...I guess it's not that innocent then...but whatever, that's your perogative though if you decide to blog about it, then be prepared to get some kind of judgement...just like we can't stop you from writing what you want, you can't stop people from forming impression

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  14. @12.17pm Anonymous

    “you are 30 and you are still weighing your options all the time”
    You could be 80 years old and still not possess infinite wisdom. Life is about weighing options and making choices and not always the right ones either. To err is human, regardless of age. Every situation is different. One’s relationship with Person X is different from one’s past relationship with Person Y. Mind you, 30 years of age is YOUNG. There is still much growing to do; more experiences to live through; god knows how many heartbreaks you’d have to survive till you find someone who is perfect for you (not a perfect person but one that is compatible with you). Not everyone is lucky on the first try.

    “do you honestly know the true meaning of love?”
    Tell me who does! Everyone’s take on it is different coz everyone’s experiences are different! If a man can’t accept HJ for who she is or is judgmental of her, then it is a situation not conducive for love to develop.

    “You need to have some asian values.”
    What the hell does this mean? Not all Asian values have a place in today’s world. In my mother’s time, a man would not even dare to ask a woman out and if he did, it must mean he wants to marry her and he would need to ask the head of the house for permission. You save yourself for 1 man? Sure, that’s a romantic ideal. Lucky you if you share sexual chemistry. It’s not the same for everyone. Sex is an important element in marriage. If you think otherwise, you are a fool!

    “Like i said no guy wants a wife who has been around the block”
    Promiscuity is one thing, but a physical act of love is another. If HJ has been in love with 5 men in her life, and she has slept with all of them – then, so what? There is nothing wrong in giving your all, if you do it honestly and sincerely. As an extreme example, even a prostitute can find love. Besides, we all can do better than settle for a judgmental man. Us women offer more than just sex.

    “I feel bad for your family as well. Cos, i am not sure there is anything at this point that would make them proud of you.”
    This is the most uncalled for, insensitive and offensive comment of all. You’re not sure if there is anything at this point that would make her parents proud of her? So is HJ the sum of all her “sexcapades”? You define someone by the number of people they sleep with? She may not talk about the achievements in all her 30 years, but it in no way does that mean that she has no successes to her name. You don’t need to demean someone just because their values do not accord with yours. If the heart is chaste, then her parents have done well in raising her.

    All that said, I don’t know HJ and am a silent reader of this blog. I’ve read lots of ridiculous comments over these past couple of months, but I just couldn’t keep my mouth shut over your holier-than-thou garbage. Seriously, you can take it and shove it.

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  15. anon 12.17- "You have been in quite a few relationships for your 30 years. It appears most of these guys left you and not vice versa."

    huh? no lah. in my last few r'ships, I dumped ashley. Skye dumped me, (then wanted me back 2 wks later! but I moved on and saw there was so much better out there for me). Mark and I, the first break up was more of my fault. The second break up, not my fault.

    The topless shots are of my back (!!!) I don't see them as something tht wld deem me unfit to marry etc.

    I hv not been round the block either. It's purely your own assumption. Just because i discuss sex and sexual issues on my blog... doesn't mean I go around shagging everyone. God. And just because the friend I travelled with is Male, doesn't mean I shagged him.

    You don't have to feel bad for my family. My parents are very proud of me. They have given me good values in life. I am an individual, I know what I want, I live by my principles. They've done well to not raise a drone in SG.
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    @avril - of course she gets fed. :s there's always someone at home to play with her everyday anyway. Just tht when I'm away, she has to sleep (on my bed) alone.

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    @Phoenix, thank you very much for that... I could not have said it better myself.

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  16. anon 12.17- "You have been in quite a few relationships for your 30 years. It appears most of these guys left you and not vice versa."

    huh? no lah. in my last few r'ships, I dumped ashley. Skye dumped me, (then wanted me back 2 wks later! but I moved on and saw there was so much better out there for me). Mark and I, the first break up was more of my fault. The second break up, not my fault.

    The topless shots are of my back (!!!) I don't see them as something tht wld deem me unfit to marry etc.

    I hv not been round the block either. It's purely your own assumption. Just because i discuss sex and sexual issues on my blog... doesn't mean I go around shagging everyone. God. And just because the friend I travelled with is Male, doesn't mean I shagged him.

    You don't have to feel bad for my family. My parents are very proud of me. They have given me good values in life. I am an individual, I know what I want, I live by my principles. They've done well to not raise a drone in SG.
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    @avril - of course she gets fed. :s there's always someone at home to play with her everyday anyway. Just tht when I'm away, she has to sleep (on my bed) alone.

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    @Phoenix, thank you very much for that... I could not have said it better myself.

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  17. Anonymous7:21 pm

    Wow HJ. I have just been clicking on your Bali pictures, to see them bigger size and I realised your skin is very smooth and clear.

    I'm impressed girl!

    (by the way, DON'T bother abt those negative stuffs from people who don't know you if you want to date, that is your wish)

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  18. Oh, I think you look great with wavy hair! It's a great alternate look to your straight hair. :)

    To all the anon's who preach "Asian values", it really is all based on your perspective isn't it? What I like about Holly's blog is how it's upbeat and fun and interesting. And having met her in person, I think she's actually a very grounded and responsible person. Just because she's not living her life the way you want to live yours doesn't make hers immoral or something not worthy of her family's pride.

    Live and let live. :)

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  19. Anonymous9:18 pm

    U don't look that skinny though. U look like 55kg or so

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  20. Anonymous9:57 pm

    Freaking skinny period...sack of bones.yucks..

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  21. Anonymous9:58 pm

    What were the reasons Mark gave for ending it the first time around?

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  22. Anonymous12:01 am

    Apparently,

    Phoenix seems to be speaking for herself more than HJ i guess.

    Silent reader? after running your mouth? Looks like you have had a few shoved up yours hence the defensive comeback, huh phoenix?

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  23. @anon12.01 - that's out of line. At least phoenix didn't comment anonymously like you did.

    I'll just regard this anonymous comment since you obviously don't want to put your name to it. For all we know, it could have been written by an eight year old somewhere or something.

    I generally don't take too seriously harsh/mean spirited comments when they're anonymous. (I hope Phoenix will do the same)

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    @anon9.58 - there wasn;t like a list of reasons or anything. we had just be arguing a lot (mostly over small insignificant stuff, and tht was mostly my fault)... and we discussed a few times over (about) a 3 week period whether we thought the r'ship was right for both of us. And in the end we pulled the plug.

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  24. typo- i meant "disregard"

    and "been"

    apologies

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  25. Anonymous12:23 am

    i used to like you HJ, but i don't anymore (i know it makes no diff to u)

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  26. Anonymous12:25 am

    Gee Phoenix..........right HJ cos that is her real name, not at all anonymous, ok call me unicorn...there i am not anonymous anymore!

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  27. I am not the idiot you're trying to make me out to be.

    if you click on the name phoenix above the comment she left, it will lead you to her blogger profile page.

    You, my dear unicorn, are still an anonymous coward.

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  28. Anonymous12:36 am

    Phoenix - that is probably the most intelligent post i have read on this blog (barring from Holly) in many months.

    So called " Asian values " what a bunch of hyocritcal racist SHIT! (And i am Asian by the way) - stop believing every patronising article in the Straits Times for gods sake! Sorry - didnt mean this to turn political or anything but some of the self righteous ignorant ill-informed comments made on this blog turn my stomach

    HJ for ever!

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  29. Paladin12:40 am

    Anonymous / Unicorn....how about douchebag - it surely suits you better

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  30. Anonymous1:16 am

    Hey keep ur hair down!

    Putting your hair up makes you look like a filipino maid.

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  31. Jessie7:33 am

    Nice pics Holly. I love Bali and it was nice to see you enjoying it too! You're looking good but you need to eat girl!!!

    Take care. :)

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  32. @Anonymous 12.01 March 11th

    There are a dozen ‘Anonymous’es here. It would actually help if you used a pseudonym such as Unicorn or Douchebag as another Anonymous suggested. I don’t even know if you are the Anonymous @ 12.17 March 10th I referred to in my earlier post.

    I value my privacy (so you won’t see me displaying my full name, I/C number, etc) but I use a pseudonym because I still see the usefulness of being identified in a forum. See how easily you directed your comment at me about whether I’ve had a few shoved up mine :) It’s all for ease of referral.

    Anyway, let’s say I’ve had a few shoved up mine (a thrilling prospect), it does not negate all that I’d said previously. I did not speak in specifics. What’s your point?

    I was silent until reading that self-righteous rubbish provoked me into speaking out. It’s fine to run one’s mouth if one has something at LEAST half intelligent, fair and sensible to say (as opposed to smart-ass).

    Unfortunately, Anonymous @12.17 was not any of these; and I suspect you may be of similar calibre.

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  33. Paladin4:36 pm

    Phoenix rules!

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  34. Anonymous6:20 pm

    Very skinny
    Any idea how tall kaykay is?

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  35. Anonymous9:40 pm

    "look like a Filipino maid" ??? more racial bigotry and stereotyping ....sigh

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  36. Anonymous12:00 am

    Phoenix,

    if you were based in singapore you might think twice about letting yourself be known, and it is not for you to judge what is intelligent and what is smartass. You are contradicting yourself, you say i am holier than thou yet here you go on your parade about calling me a unicorn or a douchebag, you are judging and labelling me yet your reason for lashing at me was cos i judged hj. Get over yourself. In my opinion what i said was sensible so shut the **** up. If you like everything about HJ thats your problem, state that. Don't spend your time police-ing others' comments. Get over yourself! BTW there is an anonymous option, and it is anyone's free will to use it.

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  37. Anonymous12:26 am

    Well said anon 12:00.

    Like you, I don't really understand how calling yourself a random fake name like phoenix instead of anon really changes anything.

    Maybe my name for today will be The Hulk!

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  38. Anonymous10:39 am

    i cant think of a good nickname so i will use my real name. Mr Jello. I dont give a damn about these so called asian values,I dont care about any values unless they are stored values(bad joke eh). Your values, his values their values its all rubbish. There are only socially acceptable values. Lesbianism was had a negative value 50yrs ago now? no issue. so values mean nothing if society deems it so. And Asian values? wth is that? Chairman Mao was Asian, Jack neo Asian, Thaksin, Asian, Anwar, Asian. All these people prescribe to Asian values which hold no relation to the Asian values of those named next to them. So bollocks to Asian values.
    Now on making comments-
    While i will readily admit i am super critical at times on this blog I do enjoy reading it and sometimes the comments are more exciting then the post. My beef with the way things happen in HJs life is that you can see the car crash the moment she gets in the car.Who here didn't know that things would end with Mark? who here is surprised that her preference is for white meat over dark?Who here is shocked that she had to take a friend to bali? does it matter? of course not! but we come here to criticize to support or to just gleefully glance behind the curtain of her life. So say what you want, even if your comments are so screwed up and everyone jumps on you, if its what you want to say, say it. HJ has given you an avenue to comment as you see fit, she has right of reply as well, and Holly don't go on about folks being cowards if we comment anonymously, you wanna fix that ? dont allow anon comments problem solved right? but we know you wont do it because no one will comment then so lets just remember that.
    Back to the Glance bit i mentioned--
    Yes, glance because we only see what she wants us to see which is fair enough, so lets not all think we are a part of her life.

    Yet its her life so we can harp, hit, insult but we cant change things can we? so lets just keep saying what we want to say, anon or not, but lets also keep some perspective. I have posted some pretty nasty comments, especially with ref to the whole sheng siong incident with hindsight i wasn't wrong in what i said but still it was nasty, but as long as you put things like that up and allow people to peep into your life and comment as they see fit, we will carry on our symbiotic relationship with you.

    right about now your asking yourself whats the point of this whole comment? well there really isn't one, i am bored and am at work so live with it.

    and to kaitlyn- who said live and let live, i agree 100% live and let live but lets comment while we can ;)
    Mr. Jello says have a nice day.

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  39. Anonymous3:30 pm

    Hj ,


    If you feel using the anonymous option is being a coward, then why on earth do u enable it. Such a hypocrite, you give readers an anonymous option and when comments don't go in your favour, you label as a coward, and you compare the comments albeit praising the ones in your favour and condone 'phonenix' as opposed to 'anon'.

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  40. OMG, stop twisting my words.

    I said "I generally don't take too seriously harsh/mean spirited comments when they're anonymous."

    I didn't say you CANNOT or SHOULD NOT leave anonymous comments. (obviously! otherwise I would not allow the anonymous option right? As some of you pointed out. Duh!)

    If it's a negative comment, and also anonymous, I won't read too much into it, as opposed to a comment left by someone who identifies himself or is someone I know, as that would mean they're willing to stand by what they say.

    I can be a crazy bitch going around leaving harsh comments calling people sluts on their blogs, but I don't think they would think much of it if it were anonymous.

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  41. Anonymous6:10 am

    Erm, HJ, do you mean "insolent" and not "insular"?

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  42. Anonymous6:10 am

    Erm, HJ, do you mean "insolent" and not "insular"?

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  43. Anonymous11:14 am

    in some issues being insular is not a bad thing.
    Mr. Jello says 'have a nice weekend"

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  44. no. i meant Insular. ->
    illiberal or narrow-minded


    Mr Jello... u tickle me.

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  45. Anonymous2:18 pm

    Singaporeans are amongst the most racist people on the planet. "white meat / dark meat" WTF? So what if she wants to date white guys, black guys, yellow guys, pink guys - get over it!

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  46. singaporeans are never the most racist lot. Living abroad makes me realise how tolerant and gracious sporeans are towards different races. Was too sheltered in sg till i ventured overseas and suddenly i am seen for my color and oriental eyes - something that was never an issue before.

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  47. @ Anonymous 12:00 AM, March 12, 2010 : Sigh. I did not call you names. You suggested ‘Unicorn’ (@12:25 AM, March 11, 2010) and Paladin suggested ‘Douchebag’ (12:40 AM, March 11, 2010). Personally, I do not care less what you call yourself as long as it is something unique and makes you easily identifiable in a forum. I had to copy and paste the time and date at which you posted your comment just so I could refer this comment to the correct Anonymous. It’s just a hassle. Your minions have also lost the whole point. As for how I felt your earlier comments were insensible and unfair, I’ve made my point but that was also lost on you. I’m bored.


    @ V: Unless you have been part of a minority race in a country, I do not think you are in a position to comment on racism (however, you are, given you may be part of a minority race in the country in which you reside currently). You mentioned having ‘oriental eyes’. In Singapore, that makes you part of the majority. This is assuming you are Chinese or at least look Chinese. If you are Chinese, you would not be able to speak from experience what a Malay or Indian (or other minority race) person experiences in Singapore given you are neither. That said, there are pockets of racism EVERYWHERE. Singaporeans are lucky in that from the get-go, LKY’s vision was for Singapore to be a multiracial/cultural/lingual country. Thank God for independence in 1965.


    As for the white meat or dark meat comment, everyone has preferences. Keep in mind though that HJ is herself a mixed breed. Be glad that white and black and every colour in between are interbreeding! It makes for a better tomorrow – racial divides will diminish and hopefully one day disappear entirely.

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  48. Why are some of you so judgmental? This blog is meant to be entertaining and to lift you temporarily from your own boring life. Why not just enjoy it and be open minded about stuff?

    I love HJ's blog it shows that life need not be as boring as it seems to be in Singapore.

    And issues in her relationship problems are her own problems. You can't change how she manages them so mind your own business. Those who criticized her for her indecisiveness might not be successful in their own relationships as well. Since she like to share how she dates and how she weighs her options, just read it and shut up if you are interested. If it irks you so much to interpret her posts as a reflection of how loose she is then please, add her blog to your list of blocked sites and click "X"

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  49. @ phoenix - hi there, Im half chinese and on i.d belong to the minority race, I don't have a chinese surname so yes i am in the position to judge situations in sg too. :)

    Of cos racism occur everywhere but level of tolerance differs from nations to nations depending on cultures and few other factors.

    Yes let racism diminish one day... i don't even know why it shd be an issue. Even my extended family's of diff race and nationality and whoever my siblings date and bring home, race is never an issue with our parents.

    There's no 100% racism free country in this world but nonetheless with the diff races harmoniously living together in Sg, i honestly am extremely proud of Sg. What compelling sights to see diff races uniting. :)

    and yes this is all getting heavy. Hj can date whoever she wants, race is secondary.

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  50. Anonymous3:21 pm

    V - that's a fair response but I agree with Phoenix - i've worked and lived in a several countries both Asia and Western countries - of course there is racism to degrees everywhere as Phoenix says but to think Singapore is a model of racial harmony is a little naive - its all here bubbling beneath the surface. What else does "asian values" mean except "we aren't as morally decadent as those angmo's" I've experienced plenty of racism here in Singapore let me assure you but in no other country have i heard white meat / dark meat used.

    That said I agree with Min - this is getting way to heavy for a lifestyle blog

    Holly how about some updates on your dating - any developments?

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  51. Updates?! I'm too scared to tell you all anymore about my dating life.

    LOL. kidding.

    yes lots been happening. But I realise now that discussing/thinking about my dating life out loud on my blog is a bit tricky because my dates (and ex BF) read my blog .

    Tht's one of the banes of being easily googled.

    WIll start to have to give everyone in my life nicknames.

    OK will update soon.

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  52. Anon 3.21, sincerely sorry to hear abt ur experiences.

    Naive or not, i ll stick to my opinions as i base my judgements on my life experiences. I wont go to the extend of defending my stand and going on and on about it cos honestly im just sharing my opinions, not trying to sway anyone's opinions or convert anyone.

    In fact i do believe you when u claimed to face lotsa racism in sg, we are all judged by diff factors by society. So to each, each's own.

    And HJ, yes we want updates!!!!!!!!!! :D

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