Clickity Click and A Really Bad Date

Read my Interview here.

http://www.myfatpocket.com/gossips/interview-with-holly-jean-aroozoo.html

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Meanwhile... I had a super slack Thursday. Was supposed to meet John (good old friend) but cancelled. I did absolutely nothing... the only time I stepped out of the house was to jump in the car with Lola (my dog) when my brother went to pick Dad up from work. He had to do overtime today, and we thought it would be a nice gesture if we were there waiting to pick him after such a long day. (OK, so it was mom's idea).

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I have a meeting to attend (clark quay area) at 10am, and I have to shower soon... but I want to tell you briefly about my dates so far.

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One was an MSN friend whom I never met before. Let's call him Z. It wasn't a date perse... because when he asked me to join him for a quick drink, I did say - THIS IS NOT A DATE OK? I knew I would not be interested because he's 2 years younger anyway. But it was 11 pm on Valentine's day... all my couple friends were happily coupling... and I felt like going out. I thought I might make a new friend who lived close by.

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First thing that struck me as wierd though was that he said - be prepared ok... I'm a cam whore so I'll take many pics of you.

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But I thought.. oh ok.. he's hinting that I should not step out of the house in my pajamas and looking like shit.

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When I got in the car, I said HI in a very friendly tone (note: casual friendly. NOT intimately friendly). And he reached over and hugged me. Tight. I was a bit shocked. But he said, Happy valentine's Day while doing it... so ok... maybe it's just sweet of him.

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Then when we got out of the car, it got VERY uncomfortable for me because he grabbed my hand. Alarm bells went off in my head. It WASN'T a date, I thought I had made that clear before agreeing to this coffee meet. And if it WERE a date, I would not appreciate him grabbing my hand just 10 minutes after meeting him. I pulled my hand away and said - You don't need to hold my hand.

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And he explained- But it's Valentine's Day. ( And pointed to some random couples around)

I just walked on ahead of him. But he persisted, and put his hand around my shoulder... only to have me awkwardly wriggle out of his grip.

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The coffee was actually ok. Pleasant conversation. But I wanted tob cut it short and go home. And he drove me home, but before I got out of the car, he tried to kiss me. I recoiled in shock (also slight disgust. sorry. I don't mean to act like I'm out of someone's league... but I really was). And he said that he was only trying to kiss me on the cheek.

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Maybe that was true, and I over reacted. And in case you were wondering, he was SG Chinese. I'm not generalising here... but I bet if it were a white guy... many would have a happy good time in my comments section saying I deserved what I got because I'm such a whore dating white guys! But you see.... (!!!) ... first time in a couple of years I go out with a chinese guy... and THIS is what happens!?

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Ok, most of you probably won't behave like this guy. I have many chinese male friends (ex classmates, ex colleagues) and they're not like that when dating (i hope).

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But for those of you who don't have a clue:

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1. DON'T grab a girl's hand. Even if you're trying to be romantic or what. If you want, you "test" first by brushing your hand against hers and watch her reaction. If she pulls away, abort mission.

2. DON'T proceed to put arm round her shoulders when she already pulled her hand away from yours.

3. DO give Fake Hugs. If you feel the occasion calls for a hug, give people fake ones (especially to the opposite sex) if you're not close. You know.. you hug but there's a gap between the bodies.

4. DON'T Dive In for a Kiss. It's desperate, and off putting. If she wants to kiss you, the signals are obvious. She'll smile and laugh and hang on to your every word. She looks at your lips a lot ( make sure you don't confuse this with her perhaps looking at something disgusting you got between your teeth). And she comes into your personal space a lot. Bad signs include- Crossing arms ( she's creating a barrier between you and her body), uncomfortable laughter and leaning away from you.

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Ok, I'd love to tell you more (one more bad date to share.. this one was actually a date). But I got to go off now. Share with you more this weekend!

Happy Friday everyone!!