Ok.. here's my response to the question I posed - Sex. How Soon Is Too Soon? Or Too Late.
Desire, Lust... sexual attraction is often fueled by frustration... and erotic tension. And when he has to work for it... and employ all his skills at acquiring it... it will feel like a big achievment when he finally beds you.
But as many readers have already pointed out... there is no right time frame... it's all highly subjective. I guess the key here... is to keep your head on... but not be so methodical and over analyse things that the relationship loses it's spontaniety.
We need to consider the average male psyche.
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I believe most men are hardwired for the thrill of the chase. And it's human nature to place a higher value on things which are rare or difficult to obtain. Including Women.
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If the same LV bag is sold cheaply .. not many people would be interested in it (I mean... god.. have you seen their awful designs?).... but because they make you queue outside the shop just to have a look at it, charge thousands for it and put you on a waiting list... suddenly it's so desirable.
Desire, Lust... sexual attraction is often fueled by frustration... and erotic tension. And when he has to work for it... and employ all his skills at acquiring it... it will feel like a big achievment when he finally beds you.
But as many readers have already pointed out... there is no right time frame... it's all highly subjective. I guess the key here... is to keep your head on... but not be so methodical and over analyse things that the relationship loses it's spontaniety. If you feel like going for it... then go for it. I've known people who have had sex on the first date and are still happily together until today.
But if you've always been having that approach and yet you keep finding yourself wondering the next day why they've lost interest in you... then it might be a good idea to just ease up a bit and put a hold on sex on the first few dates (it wouldn't hurt to try!) ... especially if you really like him.
Oh... a word of caution... if you do end up in throes of passion on the first date, do not.. I repeat, DO NOT say to him- Oh, just so you know... I don't usually do this kind of thing on the first date.
According to my guy friends... they've heard it all before. And they'll think- yeah right.
If you feel like holding out a bit longer... then hold out. Any man who dumps you because you won't have sex on the first few dates probably has zero interest in who you are. So you're better off without him.
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So, you have never fucked on the first date Holly?