Adjusting to Singlehood

I've been single two months now... and I must say... I haven't got a clue what I'm doing or where I'm heading.

Can u blame me? I've been in 2 committed relationships for 4 years in a row ( 2 years each with only like 4 days of singlehood in between). It's hard for me to be so alone yet strong enough not go whimpering back to my ex.

I've also come to the realisation- it's not hard for me to find a new boyfriend. So I should take my time in being selective... not jump into another one.

It's hard though. I don't like keeping people hanging. So far, I've only dated one guy John (an old acquaintance from 4 years ago). He's a very nice guy, makes me laugh, love his hair ( he should have cut it like that 4 years ago!) and best of all stable. He's not a "floater".... I never want a floater... you never know where the tide might take them...

So yes, one major criteria now in my pursuit of a new BF is that he must be settled.

But I can't be with John because of one pretty minor problem ( can't list here!) it's not a bad thing but it's just not suited to my life and the way I am ... and I know it will be the cause of many arguments and unhappiness in the future. I don't want to have to change anything in a person.. I intend to find a soul mate so matched with me that there is nothing to change... we just fit together. ( My friends have all told me that I am setting myself up for disappointment). But hey... I have a bit of time to spare... the least I can do is try... right?

I have decided to date again. I mean I have to! I can't just keep hanging out with John, knowing that he's not the one. It's not fair to him either. And there are plenty of men out there with great jobs and homes. ( I know... lucky me huh) So now what?

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